Fear of responsibility is a real misfortune for a modern person. In psychology, this is called hypengiophobia - a person's tendency to try to avoid responsibility for life decisions in all possible ways. As a rule, the reason is that people are simply afraid to make mistakes, but they also may not have a strong enough willpower.
If you are wrong, then you will have to answer for the consequences. At least in front of himself. This is what causes in many people the fear of making a decision, the fear of taking on any serious responsibility. A situation in which the result of a step taken will be negative appears to a person, and his hands are discouraged. Psychologists believe that such people lack basic trust in the world around them. This is called hypengiophobia. As soon as a situation occurs, or even just emerges, in which there is a risk of causing a negative impression of oneself, being condemned or criticized, a person tries in every possible way to avoid this. He unknowingly considers himself to be guilty and a loser in advance, and is afraid that this will not happen in reality. It may happen that too strict upbringing, when the parents forbade the child everything and everyone, did not allow him to decide for himself and led to such a consequence. A person thinks that he is not worthy to make decisions, that he will not be able to take the position of an adult. This problem is purely social. The reason does not lie in biological fear for survival, but a person is afraid of being "expelled" from society, which may not approve of something. In addition to public disapproval, a person is afraid to "earn" his own disapproval, because if something goes wrong, then he can reproach himself for the rest of his life. Fear of responsibility can manifest itself in anything: unwillingness to take responsibility for the family, child, business, finances, or subordinates at work. In addition to confusion in the head, the fear of responsibility also causes malfunctions in the body, the most common are metabolic problems. A person can become fussy, demonstratively active, but he can also take a wait-and-see attitude, behaving inhibited and inactive. Psychologists have noticed that women are more likely to suffer from this problem than men. With age, the fear of responsibility weakens. As a result of research, it turned out that people who are afraid of responsibility often suffer from diseases of the cardiovascular system, atherosclerosis, stomach ulcers, and hypertension. If you understand that you are afraid to make serious decisions, then you can try to solve this problem yourself or contact a psychologist. Take on a small amount of work first, such as keeping the kitchen clean at all times, or making sure your child does homework on time. Gradually add things to yourself, but do not take on other people's worries, otherwise an exorbitant burden of responsibility will put pressure on you. Psychological work on the fear of responsibility takes place in two stages. First, you need to change a person's attitude towards himself and his abilities. Then he must learn to behave differently in the world around him.
