Fear of error, failure, condemnation from the outside, unwillingness to actively act, make decisions and "disentangle" the consequences - there can be many reasons for the infantile escape from responsibility. But it is responsibility that distinguishes an adult who walks through life confidently and freely, from a faint-hearted mattress who prefers to suffer, crowded, complain about life, but sail in someone else's boat.
Instructions
Step 1
Think of yourself as a child. You had so much creative energy, enthusiasm, you wanted to try everything, and the idea of growing up and gaining independence seemed so attractive. Now you have grown up, all the possibilities are finally open before you, but you are already "buried" in your doubts and fears and do not decide on anything. But all you need is to make a decision once and start acting!
Step 2
Any choice implies your responsibility. Of course, it is not so great when it comes to choosing between rice or pasta for dinner, but if you cannot decide on your own even with this, how will you manage your life, time, health? Can you be responsible for other people?
Step 3
Not wanting to take on any responsibility, very often people begin to shift the blame for everything that happens in their lives on other people and, in general, external circumstances: bad government, parents brought up the wrong way, the weather is not favorable … You can endlessly blame the environment for your troubles: they say, "I am not me, and the horse is not mine." But then do not be surprised that this "horse", or rather, your life, is being controlled by someone else.
Step 4
Often behind the refusal to take responsibility is perfectionism - an unmotivated desire to be perfect in everything. The roots of this phenomenon lie in childhood: if the child's parents praised little, noted little of his successes and achievements, but at the same time demanded a lot and scolded him for the slightest oversight, he may form the conviction that it is impossible to love him so imperfect but generally accept. And, as you know, the one who does nothing is not mistaken. That is why, fearing to be mistaken, such a person avoids responsibility and activity. But this is a dead-end option, because perfection is unattainable, and invented ideals exist only in the head, and not in reality. It's better to make mistakes from time to time, learn from your mistakes, than to do nothing at all and not even try. What if it works out? Become a little more self-indulgent.
Step 5
Reconsider your outlook on life. It is a mistake to think that you are maintaining your freedom by avoiding responsibility. If you are not responsible for your actions, dreams, problems, difficulties and successes, then someone else is doing it, on whom you are completely dependent.
Step 6
Overcome your doubts and fears. Do something that scares you every day, and gradually, starting with the little things, train yourself to make informed choices at every step, not letting anyone else make decisions for you. Becoming responsible means daring to assert yourself and accept the consequences of any of your choices, actions or words.
