In everyday life, it happens to be faced with rudeness and inattention, to get into unpleasant situations. You have to treat them as calmly as possible. But what if every little thing leads to tears and mental wounds? How to learn not to take everything to heart, not to worry about trifles?
Instructions
Step 1
Trust people. Look carefully: most likely, no one wants to offend you (of course, unless you deliberately provoke the interlocutor). You cannot know exactly what other people think about you, how they see the situation. Therefore, it is not necessary to consider every glance or word directed towards oneself.
Step 2
See yourself as a unique person. Learn to react calmly to comments from the outside. Not always criticism can be justified. Often banal envy hides behind it. Or, feeling weakness, vulnerability, they want to deprive you of peace of mind. Listen to the remark, take it as a little lesson that does not in the least demean your dignity.
Step 3
Don't limit your thinking to strict boundaries by coming up with rules and laws. Do not try to force others to submit to your own ideas about reality. In this case, a feeling of disappointment is guaranteed to you. Avoid stereotypes and labels. By squeezing things into certain categories, it is impossible to see them in the light of reality.
Step 4
It happens that the real cause of resentment or aching heart wound lies in elementary fatigue, overwork. Analyze your feelings about a tense situation, do not jump to conclusions. Better pour yourself a cup of tea, relax, be distracted for a while. And the supposedly pressing sore point will become an ordinary work moment that does not deserve close attention.
Step 5
Try to be optimistic. Look for the positive aspects in every minute you live. A negative attitude will not bring relief or change the future. The very expectation of bad news can turn existence into a nightmare. And the more you start replaying resentments and fears in yourself, the more significant they will seem. Just forget about them and move on.
