Some people suffer from being too stiff and shy. They do not like to communicate with strangers and be in the spotlight. They want to behave simply, at ease, but they are too insecure, not confident in themselves, afraid to do something stupid or remain incomprehensible. How can you overcome feelings of stiffness?
Instructions
Step 1
Decide for yourself who you would like to be. Find a positive role model in your community. This will teach you free and relaxed behavior. Take note of your communication patterns and work on your own mistakes. Observe and identify examples of complexes in other people.
Step 2
Try the following experiment. When a lively conversation is struck up in some company, deliberately refuse to participate in it. Instead, look at how people behave, what they are talking about, what mistakes they make, and how the interlocutors react to them. This will allow you to imagine yourself in such an environment.
Step 3
Always analyze your own behavior in unfamiliar situations. Just don’t scold yourself too much. Only constructive criticism is welcome.
Step 4
Don't be afraid to be misunderstood and don't avoid communication. Be bold and admit to your interlocutors that you are a little withdrawn. This will help you overcome the psychological barrier during communication. Thus, you will gain confidence in your abilities.
Step 5
Remember, there are no perfect people. Everyone has their flaws, complexes, and everyone makes mistakes. Accept that troubles do happen. But this is not a disaster. After a while, this situation will no longer seem so scary, but on the contrary - trivial and funny.
Step 6
Don't think of yourself as the center of the universe, but don't overestimate the importance of someone else's opinion.
Step 7
Communicate more with people, visit crowded companies more often. This will teach you how to be at ease and easy. If you find yourself in an unfamiliar environment among a large number of people and you feel not entirely confident, choose one interlocutor for yourself. He will help you brighten up your loneliness and adjust to the new company.
Step 8
Give people genuine compliments. They will be grateful for the kind words addressed to them.
Step 9
Smile a lot and ask questions more often. This is how the interest in the conversation is manifested. For discussion, choose topics that are interesting to both interlocutors.
