There are people who are very shy and constrained, do not like to be in the spotlight and communicate with strangers. Naturally, they want to behave simply and naturally, but they are not sure of their merits or they are afraid that they will do something stupid or they will be misunderstood in some way. Others are convinced that this is arrogance or arrogance. How to break this vicious circle and learn to be relaxed?
Instructions
Step 1
Decide for yourself what you would like to be. Think of specific people - free and liberated, who can be an example for you to follow. Notice how they behave, how they talk. At the same time, try to identify examples of notorious behavior in others.
Step 2
Try this experiment. When a lively conversation ensues in a company, deliberately refuse to participate in it and instead pay attention to how people behave, what they are talking about, what mistakes they make, and how the interlocutors react to it. This will help you visualize yourself in this environment.
Step 3
Constantly analyze your behavior in unusual situations. Just do not criticize and criticize yourself very much. Criticism should be constructive.
Step 4
Do not avoid communication and do not be afraid that you will not be understood. You can even admit to your interlocutors that you are a little closed - most likely, they will help you overcome the psychological barrier in communication and gain self-confidence.
Step 5
Remember that you, like everyone else, are not perfect and you can make mistakes, accept that something may not work out. But this is not a disaster. Think that after a while this situation will seem funny to you.
Step 6
Do not overestimate the importance of someone else's opinion and generally do not consider yourself the center of the universe, which everyone constantly thinks about. In fact, except for close people, no one cares about your little mistakes.
Step 7
To learn how to behave easily and naturally, communicate more with people and take every opportunity to find yourself in a crowded company. If you find yourself in an unfamiliar environment among many people and do not feel very confident, find yourself one interlocutor who will help you adapt and brighten up your "loneliness".
Step 8
Give people sincere compliments - then they will begin to take interest in you and some gratitude.
Step 9
Smile more often and ask questions - this will show your interest in the interlocutor. For communication, choose topics that are interesting to both of you.
Step 10
Even if the interlocutor is not familiar to you, imagine that you see him not for the first time, and communicate as if he is your relative or friend. Of course, this does not imply familiarity.
Step 11
Sign up for public speaking or acting courses, and perhaps just communication training, and you do not need individual advice, but group lessons.
Step 12
Take up dancing: free movement and the ability to control your body will help you get rid of psychological stiffness.
Step 13
Most importantly, learn to value and respect yourself. Try to look good at all times, watch your appearance. And in the evening and morning, looking in the mirror, pay attention to your most attractive features. You have no reason to be squeezed and notorious.
