Life is unpredictable in itself, but often we ourselves do not always know what to expect from ourselves, and what character traits or abilities lie in the depths of our personality. Self-control is a valuable ability, which lies in the ability to control your emotions and actions, and above all - thoughts.
Instructions
Step 1
Make it a rule to conduct a dialogue with yourself in your free time (on the subway, minibus, at a bus stop, before bedtime) in order to know exactly the specifics of your experiences as a result of certain situations.
Step 2
Identify events, situations and people for yourself that can provoke you to unwanted behavior.
Step 3
If possible, role-play a scene with loved ones or friends in which you may lose control of your words or actions.
Step 4
Choose alternative tactics of behavior. This can be a tacit response to a provocateur or deliberately kind and sweet treatment in order to discourage him. Play this reaction model.
Step 5
Cultivate a strong will. Start with small things in which you need to make an effort on yourself. Try to break a minor but long-standing habit. For example, skip fried sunflower seeds for a month if you are a fan of eating them at your leisure.
Step 6
Look at what is happening from a different angle. When you forbid yourself to do something, you usually want it even more. Try to come to the conclusion that this does not interest you that much or that it does not concern you. Then it will be easier to remain calm and self-controlled.
Step 7
Do not hold back emotions and experiences that are adequate to this situation. But learn to filter out what will be unproductive at the moment, and what has no logic or benefit in this situation.
Step 8
As you know, philosophers believe that whoever owns information owns the world. There is also an opinion that he who overcomes himself wins others. So, try to take a closer look at those around you, or take a historical personality and familiarize yourself with their ways of guiding yourself. It is quite possible to learn self-control, only you need to make efforts in knowing yourself and, overcoming weakness of spirit, take control of fate and your contribution to it in your own hands. After all, a person who controls himself is a winner.
