We often hear about respect and love for ourselves, about the fact that we need to value and take care of ourselves. But what needs to be done to learn to respect yourself?
Instructions
Step 1
The way a person relates to himself is a direct reflection of his attitude towards others. And low self-esteem spoils not only relationships and deprives a lot of opportunities, but also almost completely destroys a person's life. Anyone who does not respect and value himself does not live. Therefore, the first thing you should do is understand this simple truth.
Step 2
Remember that any thought is material, and the negative that you think about yourself must be embodied in life. Start thinking about yourself in a positive way, stop scolding, but rather praise. Even if, while uttering approving words to yourself, you internally disagree with them, continue. Do this regularly. Over time, you will feel that all these good thoughts about you no longer seem so alien and strange, and you yourself somehow imperceptibly began to correspond to them.
Step 3
Assess yourself objectively. If you have a problem with respect and love for yourself, then you think you are full of flaws. Write down all your problematic qualities on a piece of paper and analyze each one. Remember how and when the last time you showed this or that quality, think about why this happened. When problems are structured, the fear of them fades away and the moment comes when they can be solved.
Step 4
However, you will clearly find several characteristics whose origins you cannot explain. They appeared either thanks to people who once appropriated them to you, or, so to speak, "to the heap." Think about whether this applies to you, whether this is the invention of strangers. If so, feel free to cross out these meaningless words.
Step 5
Now write down those qualities that you lack in order to begin to respect yourself. Perhaps you would like to become more confident in yourself, stop being lazy or cheating. Evaluate whether it is so difficult to instill in yourself these qualities, what is needed in order for them to become yours, and why you still do not possess them. You will see that it takes only one small step to love yourself.
Step 6
Now the time has come to describe all your positive qualities. It will be very difficult to do this, but it is necessary. You will be surprised that it turns out that you cook great, you have a beautiful voice, you are kind and neat, but how can you not appreciate yourself for that?
Step 7
Begin to be respectful of yourself in practice. Tidy yourself up, put on nice clothes, get your hair done. Are you overweight? What's the use of hating yourself for this, you better sign up to the gym and discover a varied menu of healthy eating. Watch your health, take care of yourself, because there is no more like you, you are unique, and therefore you must love and take care of yourself.
Step 8
Your environment is a direct reflection of your attitude towards yourself. Therefore, it is very important that a person has friends, acquaintances, people of similar interests, and communication with them brings mutual pleasure and benefit. Therefore, stop isolating yourself from the whole world, because it will not harm you if you yourself do not want to.
Step 9
Continue to improve yourself and learn to look for exits. For example, to make it easier to deal with laziness, find yourself an interesting hobby that you can delightfully engage in for a long time. And then you will see that you are not such a lazy person, you just had to find something to your liking.
