Too gentle character, lack of initiative can lead to sad consequences - yielding to everyone and not setting goals for yourself, you will not make progress in any area of your life. To prevent this from happening, it can sometimes be helpful to feel constructive anger pushing you to take decisive action.
Necessary
- - The Diary;
- - pen;
- - magazines with photos;
- - scissors;
- - paper;
- - glue;
- - push pins.
Instructions
Step 1
What is constructive anger? First of all, it is anger at oneself - at one's worthlessness, inability to achieve something, to take a decisive step at the right time. Such anger pushes you to action, makes you say to yourself - “I can! I will succeed! This is precisely its benefit.
Step 2
Analyze why you want to cultivate constructive anger? What are you missing in your life? Do you think that you are an outsider, that you have not achieved anything in your professional or personal spheres? Answer yourself honestly to the question: what are the reasons for your failures? Perhaps you have low self-esteem or are you afraid to make decisions and be responsible for their consequences?
Step 3
Set specific goals for yourself. They should not be vague and abstract, as, for example: "I want to be a rich person," but be more specific, for example: "Take the post of a company director" or "Get a better paid job", etc. Invest all your will in achieving the goal - this will allow you to develop healthy passion, healthy anger.
Step 4
Take specific steps to achieve your goal. Properly motivate your actions. More often compare the achievements of your colleagues and friends with your own. Actively develop a spirit of rivalry with others, do not let passivity and laziness prevail over you. Keep in mind that rivalry should be just constructive - you should not dig a hole for other people, it is better to wish them success from the bottom of your heart, but try to be, if not ahead, then at least next to the leaders.
Step 5
Keep a personal diary, write down in it what you did to achieve your goal, and also indicate what threw you back, contributed to your regression. Do not be cunning, referring to the circumstances and other people who are guilty of your problems, look for the reasons for your failures only in yourself. End each entry with a specific conclusion that will help you get closer to solving the problem.
Step 6
Work to improve your own self-esteem: improve your knowledge and skills, broaden your horizons, find a hobby for your soul, do exercises to harmonize your mind and body. People with high self-esteem tend to feel constructively angry and push forward to achieve their goals.
Step 7
Visualize your goals. If mental visualization does not have enough effect on you, make a collage by cutting out photographs from magazines of what you do not yet have in life, but that you definitely want to get. Paste the pictures on a large sheet of paper and hang them on the wall, so that the picture of your near bright future is always in front of your eyes.
Step 8
Read the success stories of rich and famous people, learn their wisdom, learn from life experience. Try not to be possessed by black envy, but rather constructive anger, excitement, pushing you to perform feats for the sake of your own future.
Step 9
Keep in mind that constructive anger is precisely excitement, positive rivalry, not anger, ill will, envy, and other negative emotions. Therefore, try to keep your thoughts life-affirming. Feel free to look ahead, go to your goal, do not give up in case of possible failures and you will definitely succeed!
