Very often, negative comments kill self-confidence. But criticism can be both constructive, from which you can derive a lot of benefit for yourself, and destructive, to which you can safely ignore.
Constructive criticism is always aimed at ensuring that you avoid similar mistakes in the future. Even if the critic completely disagrees with you, he wants to help you by pointing out really existing mistakes in your work that you can work with. When expressing his opinion, the critic should not insist that this is the only possible truth. He only offers options for solving the problem, and does not solve it on his own. At the same time, the problem is always clearly indicated, and all its provisions are thoroughly argued. In addition, it is desirable for the critic to point out the positive aspects of the work, as required by the elementary rules of constructive criticism.
Destructive criticism is usually offensive. It is not aimed at improving the existing situation, it only gives rise to a whole storm of negative emotions in the person being assessed. Very often, the purpose of destructive criticism is to manipulate the interlocutor. To turn the situation to his advantage, the critic points out the inconvenient moments in the opponent's work. It is important to always analyze the critic's motivation in order to understand how constructive his words can be. Sometimes, offensive criticism displays feelings of jealousy or self-doubt. In order to humiliate the object of envy and appear to be a wiser person against its background, the critic turns to personalities, clings to trifles and does not support his remarks with confirming arguments.
Remember that defining the type of criticism plays a very important role in creating a future plan of action. Sometimes criticism can be your good assistant on the way to quickly achieve a goal.
