Self-confidence is an essential quality of a successful person. Success in all walks of life depends on this feeling. It must be developed, instilled from childhood, educating at an early age. If such an opportunity has already been missed, do not hesitate - self-confidence, like another quality, can be developed independently at any age. The main thing is to believe in yourself.
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, learn not to be complex because of your insecurity, not to criticize yourself, calmly accept all the shortcomings. Everyone makes mistakes, and perfect people don't exist. The first reason for insecurity is that a person does not love himself. Get rid of this feeling.
Step 2
Set a goal for yourself. It is better to write everything down on paper: indicate what changes in yourself you will achieve in order to become more self-confident, what you need for this. Determine what this quality means to you. Remove the sheet of notes - you will be able to get it in a month to compare it with your achievements.
Step 3
Think back to the moments when you felt the most confident in yourself. Remember in what situation it was, what caused this feeling, what feelings you had. All the smallest details and details are important. Remember this more often, try to evoke those feelings, to embody them.
Step 4
Try this exercise: put a rubber band on your hand, and when you feel insecure, pull and lower the elastic so that it hits your hand painfully. After several such situations, you will associate unpleasant feelings with insecurity, and you will subconsciously begin to avoid such a situation. You can also do the opposite - when you manage to be confident in yourself, fix the feelings with positive emotions. Do what you like and want: eat sweets, watch your favorite movie.
Step 5
Monitor your posture and gait. Correct, proud posture and a firm gait are the two main hallmarks of a confident person. Do not slouch, keep your head straight and straighten your shoulders. Walk clearly, straight, show confidence with your appearance, even if you feel the opposite. Gradually, your psyche will adjust to your body, and you will feel confident in yourself. Develop other attributes of a confident person - speak louder, look the other person in the eye, and change facial expressions and gestures.
Step 6
Change your speech. In conversation, use the pronoun "I" more often, always express your opinion using the phrases "I think", "I think". Say “no” when necessary, express refusal clearly and firmly - “I don’t want”, “I don’t like it”, “It doesn’t suit me”. Express all your feelings openly, talk about them. Try starting and ending conversations yourself. Control your voice and timbre, speak softly in a conversation with a person you like, and harshly when you need to defend your innocence or opinion.
Step 7
Select from your environment several self-confident people, watch their behavior, speech, movements, try to adopt them. At first, feel like an actor, put on the mask of a self-confident person, merge into the image, even if everything inside you is trembling with insecurity. If you constantly take care of yourself, you will get so used to this image that it will become a part of you, and you will gain self-confidence not only from the outside, but also from the inside.
