Of all the contacts that exist in the life of every person, communication with parents is the most serious and important. Even when we reach the golden age and become parents ourselves, while still being children, we sometimes conflict with those to whom we owe the very fact of birth.
Instructions
Step 1
In any situation, before asking for forgiveness from mom or dad, you should cool off your emotions. After a while, it is much easier to realize your guilt and understand what the mistake was. It is very difficult to put ourselves in the shoes of our parents, because we are accustomed from childhood that they always know everything better than we do and, as a rule, insist on their decision, even if it contradicts our desires. However, the older we become, the easier it is to put ourselves in their place and understand that even if we - their children - have already grown up, they still care about us and wish us well. From this position, it is much easier to see your mistake and feel the injustice.
Step 2
When you feel ready to ask your mom for forgiveness, talk back, admit your guilt, and explain your feelings. Thus, you will give an opportunity to better understand your experiences. After all, you hardly wanted to deliberately hurt her. When doing this, remember to use the I Feel communication model. We so often tell the other person how wrong they are. In fact, there is a different feeling behind our words. The essence of the "I feel" model boils down to the fact that each sensation should be formulated as "I am in pain" or "I feel sadness." But it’s not “You’re wrong” or, even worse, “You never hear me”. Thus, we give the other person a better understanding of ourselves, show that we are not iron, and each of us experiences his own feelings. Listen to your mom and hug her. The best sign of her forgiveness is your feeling of relief from the heaviness in your soul.
Step 3
Often, grown-up children’s conflicts with their parents have their roots in childhood. Unfulfilled desires, suppressed emotions - all this can come to the surface in the form of constant quarrels and disputes. Therefore, very often adult children conflict with their parents, not realizing that true relationships are harmonious, and parents are mentors, partners and often close friends. Feel free to ask your mom or dad for forgiveness. Of course, in any conflict, both sides are to blame. The sooner you can stop and experience them, the faster this awareness occurs.
