To have sex, you need to get rid of your clothes. At least partially. For some, nudity is a natural state. For others, it is real stress. The mere thought that it will be necessary to undress (no matter in what situation), introduces such people into a state of either panic or mild suspended animation. Obviously, this has an extremely unfavorable effect on sex.
First of all, you need to understand why a person perceives nudity so painfully. With a high degree of probability, the origins of such an intricate relationship with your body should be sought in childhood. Originally from childhood. Perhaps the reason for this is the excessive severity of parents, grandmothers and kindergarten teachers. In an effort to prevent the child's interest in the sphere of sexual life and thereby protect him (and, first of all, himself) from unnecessary problems, they persistently inspire the child with dislike for the genitals and everything connected with them. Surely, you remember how in kindergarten nannies and educators did not allow keeping their hands under the covers during sleep and severely punished those who were caught studying their primary sexual characteristics. It was believed (and is still considered) that masturbation is bad, unacceptable and, in general, like death. Therefore, disobedience should be punished especially severely, and, worst of all, publicly. A child who has experienced such stress - universal ridicule and humiliation in front of peers - is ready for the rest of his life to forget about what is below his belt. Plus, he is faced with a prohibition ("You can't touch yourself there!", "You can't walk around the room naked!"), Coming from an adult, authoritative person - a parent or educator - whom he is unable to contradict. Therefore, the suggested attitude grows deeply into consciousness, and for 19 years a person has not been able to explain why he is so afraid of the naked body, and, as a result, the topic of sex. It is highly likely that even in adulthood, such a person will hesitate to undress at the doctor, in a common locker room (for example, in the pool) and even at home - contemplation of his naked body delivers unpleasant sensations - the fear of being caught, ridiculed and cursed. Naturally, all this happens unconsciously (it is unlikely that a person thinks that the doctor or poolmates will laugh at him) - this work is done for him by fears and complexes inspired from childhood). Troublers of the calm. Another reason is the experience of humiliation. Children, as you know, are the most cruel creatures in the world: if they decide to hunt someone, they will certainly succeed. The reason for the mockery could be physiological changes that began earlier than the due date (breast formation, hair appearance). The child was insultingly called, pointing out to him that his body is different from others - the so-called "normal" - and he acquired a complex for life regarding his own physical imperfection. Causal relationships. In order to improve your relationship with nudity, it is very important to understand the reasons for this attitude towards your body. It is important to remember at what moment you felt uncomfortable, draw the details and look at the situation with an adult, today's look. Was everything so terrible and irreparable at that moment? Perhaps it was not you who were to blame, but the people who were next to you at that moment - adults who scolded you, or peers who laughed. When you rebuild your entire history of relationship with your body, nudity will no longer seem so intimidating to you. Of course, you will not immediately go to a nude beach, but most likely, you will start looking at yourself in the mirror differently. If you really encounter such a problem, use our tips. We hope they help you get along with your own nudity. Sleep without clothes. Feel your naked body. To do this, try sleeping naked. It's summer now, so it will be more than functional. On the one hand, being without clothes will give you pleasant sensations - the body will be relaxed, nothing will squeeze it. On the other hand, you will not be afraid of anything. After all, you are still under the covers and no one will see you. Don't hurt yourself. If you enjoy having sex in the dark, keep doing it. But explain to your partner why you are doing this. This conversation will not be easy for you, but it will greatly help you and your partner understand each other. The man will be more attentive to your desires (for example, he will not pester you in broad daylight), and you will stop living alone with your problem. Revise your wardrobe. Perhaps shyness made you dress extremely restrained: long skirts, jeans, turtlenecks and only low heels. Try something less serious, like a shorter skirt. It may not be necessary to immediately go to the dance floor, but it makes sense to go in this form, for example, to the store. Light to help! If your partner insists on having sex in light and light only, don't panic. Almost any light (if it is not noon and you are not in the forest) can be turned to your advantage.
