To live in a constant race to conform to someone's invented ideals, to experience, to endlessly improve oneself and everything around is catastrophically difficult, just like constantly worrying about a vague future or tasks whose solution is now unclear. Letting go of the situation - how is it?
Instructions
Step 1
The advice to “let go of the situation” can be heard quite often. At the same time they say: "Relax, do not fuss, let everything go on as usual." And there is a share of pragmatism in this, but … If a problem is urgent for a person, it gnaws at him, everything reminds of it, and you can fall asleep and wake up for a long time with only one thought: how to get out, what to do. In this case, the energy is spent more on experiences and "running in a circle", but a person cannot pull himself together, stop and simply not think. So what do they mean when they say “let the situation go”?
Step 2
Unfortunately, the level of empathy is not well developed in everyone. Saying "let go of the situation", the interlocutor from the outside can see the redundancy of your feelings, but not be able or even try to enter your state, understand its reasons, and feel your pain. By and large, he does not care, and, perhaps, his own plans for the next dinner occupy him much more. But what should you do?
Step 3
In addition to the very incident that worries you so much, there are probably many other things, problems and events in your life. Take care of them, think about them, do not allow yourself to limp in a pool of your own fears and insecurities. Let it be even the smallest everyday tasks - do them as if nothing else matters at the moment, with full dedication.
Step 4
But, of course, it just won't work to dismiss the problem: for a long time not finding a solution, it can wear you out, lead to a nervous breakdown or even insanity. If you think that you cannot cope with the situation on your own, seek help from a psychologist or psychotherapist. There is nothing shameful in this - on the contrary, now it is even considered fashionable.
Step 5
If you are sure that you can understand yourself and curb your feelings, start working on yourself in this direction. Describe the situation as you see it, as well as your emotions and feelings. You can imagine at the same time that you are telling all this to a loved one who understands you. Include an inner parent who accepts you as you are, fully supports you, and wants to help you. Tell him in color what happened, as if a child who injured his finger was complaining to mom or dad.
Step 6
Next, turn on positive thinking and get creative with the problem. Start coming up with possible options for resolving the situation, even the most fantastic ones. So your brain will be busy with business and will not be idle (and for him, oh, how difficult it is), attention will no longer be in the negative, but in a positive direction. In addition, your fantasy can play out so much that it will even amuse you or at least calm you down.
