Throughout life, the feeling of shame visits every person many times. And if for some people this feeling is fleeting and quickly forgotten, then for others it becomes obsessive and oppressive. The constant presence of a sense of shame prevents a person from fully developing, building relationships with people around him and even living a normal life. What role does shame play in the human psyche?
When a person feels constant shame for his actions, thoughts or actions, personality substitution occurs. Shame plays a decisive role in the psychological perception of reality, thus a person becomes insecure. Such a person often does not know what he really wants and even perceives his emotions inadequately.
The inability to express their feelings and emotions, for which it is "naturally" ashamed, leads to a person's social isolation. Such a person is not able to establish relations with the outside world, both in his personal life and at work. The feeling of shame cannot become overwhelming in one moment, such a psychological problem leads a story from childhood.
Parents, through a sense of shame, seek to make the child obedient, without considering the consequences of such upbringing. The little person becomes ashamed of bad grades and behavior, and even of their own illnesses, because they upset their parents. Over time, the feeling of shame becomes necessary and quite familiar to the child. Parents replace the love and understanding they need with a constant feeling of shame. The child begins to perceive parental love only through the prism of bashfulness. After all, adults stop scolding for pranks only after bashful repentance.
Passing into adulthood, this feeling carries a destructive energy to the person's personality. The feeling of shame prevents a person from being himself, any manifestations of life are rejected and criticized, leading to a dead end. The human psyche for full functioning requires all feelings, including shame. A fleeting sense of shame protects and supports the human psyche. This is why it is so difficult to be on the line between one-time and permanent shame.
In order to live in harmony with oneself and the surrounding reality, a person needs to know and correctly perceive all the features of his psyche. Awareness of the main aspects of life, for which one is ashamed, and the correct work to eliminate them will help to develop harmoniously and feel like a full-fledged member of society.
