It is very convenient to be a friendly person. The absence of conflicts reduces the amount of stress, positive communication with others makes it easy to find ways out of difficult circumstances, and the smiles of loved ones do not let you get bored. Anyone can establish a good relationship, but it will take an effort.
To be pleasant acquaintances, you need to learn how to follow a few simple rules. Following them will allow in most situations to be calm, not to cause irritation, not to go over to insults, rudeness or insults. And if you yourself are not aggressive, then those around you will not provoke you.
Don't judge others
Try never to say bad things about someone. Any criticism, disapproval or condemnation must be forgotten. Allow everyone to live the way they like, and even if you disagree with it, don't say it out loud. The only acceptable comment is “I wouldn't do that,” but without further explanation or pretensions.
It is necessary to adhere to this rule at work, in the family, among friends and acquaintances. But there are times when criticism is needed or you are asked for advice. Then speak to the person's eyes what you think is wrong. Try to choose soft expressions, do not be rude or insult. Of course, honesty sometimes hurts, but try to reduce it.
Don't expect people to do something
Expectations spoil the relationship very seriously. When you count on something, and then it does not happen, strange sensations appear in your soul. Resentment, claims make communication difficult and closed. It is important not to allow these feelings in yourself, and then those around you will also be able to be frank. You need to learn to express your hopes and plans. If you thought the person would do something, tell him about it. You do not need to hide your feelings, it is important to talk about them.
If you yourself start to be frank, those around you will definitely pick up this initiative. It's great to live without secrets and reproaches, but people are afraid that they will be misunderstood. If you succeed, then all your friends will join this process.
Learn to praise others
In our society, fewer and fewer people are thanking and praising for the achievement, but these are things that are necessary for a comfortable life. Learn to compliment. If a person managed to do something efficiently and quickly, do not take it for granted, be sure to take him a few minutes and tell him that he is great. Notice what others are doing, admire it. Thank the employees for their reports, hug your wife for a delicious dinner, give a flower to your friend for being always there.
It is only important to be sincere when saying kind words. Only real deeds deserve praise; one should not express it for the imperfect. It is important to be honest and not flatter, but to express the truth. Too much gratitude can be annoying.
To build a good relationship, treat everyone kindly. Always analyze what kind of reaction you yourself would like to receive in this case, and behave according to your wishes. The better you think of others, the warmer your community.
