Harmonious relationships are the result of long-term labor of a couple in love. Many people have a misconception that a person falls in love, creates a family, and that's enough. But time has shown that strong relationships require constant work on themselves.
Over the years, more and more disagreements arise between the spouses. The usual word “thank you” is more often forgotten. Gratitude to a loved one is expressed only on holidays. Why is this happening, and is it possible to return the former closeness?
The reasons for what is happening are in ourselves. In the quickness and bustle of the present time, someone forgets, someone does not have time to pay enough attention to their soul mate. Unwillingness to understand each other better also leads to a cooling of feelings.
What's the chance to mend a relationship? It is very great, you just need the desire to work on your mutual understanding. Do not be intimidated by the word "work", because relationships are characterized by the rule "how much you put in, so much you get." Today, many people resort to the method of imago therapy to solve problems.
It was first used by American psychotherapists Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt, who achieved significant results. The essence of the idea of imago therapy lies in the openness of partners, in their ability to trust the chosen one. Reuniting partners as well as developing listening skills are the main tasks.
To solve the problems, it is proposed to conduct an imago-dialogue. With its help, partners channel their energy and emotions towards understanding the interlocutor and showing empathy. This makes it possible to re-experience the beauty of intimacy and the forgotten feeling of peaceful love.
The sequence of dialogue is conventionally divided into 4 stages:
1. Creation of a favorable environment, that is, no one should interfere with you.
2. Choose who will speak first and who will listen, and repeat the words of the speaker.
3. The "speaker" should say three sentences of gratitude to the partner.
4. The "listener" repeats the words he heard.
When the “speaker” listens to the words spoken by him, he must feel his speech from the outside, rethink it. If you decide to cope with your problems on your own, then special video tutorials will help you with this. If you wish, you can attend trainings, seminars on this topic. But if this is beyond your power, then be sure to seek help from a specialist.
