For many parents, children remain foolish for a long time, who need to be patronized, protected and protected. And grown-up children at this time dream of letting their parents know that they have become adults.
Signs of an adult personality
One of the most important signs of a mature personality is authenticity, or identity. Authenticity is expressed in full awareness of the present moment, independent choice of a way of life and acceptance of one's own responsibility for this choice. An adult person always remains himself in reactions and behavior, and also allows himself not to waste energy on creating a beautiful, but false facade of his life.
A mature person can afford not to be a reflection of other people's hopes, but to act in accordance with his inner position. An adult knows who he is and who he wants to become in the future.
An adult is tolerant of the whole gamut of his own and others' feelings. He does not drive away negative emotions from himself, he lives them, thereby gaining control over his behavior. Such a person is able to evaluate himself and other people without sticking labels.
Another of the signs of an adult is tolerance, i.e. the ability to put up with uncertainty. Developed intuition, the adequacy of feelings, the ability to take a justified risk help him in this.
Rejection of perfectionism and the ability to set realistic goals also distinguish an adult from a psychologically immature personality. The child is not able to realize and recognize the limitations of his capabilities, he lives with illusions, and in case of failure, instead of learning life lessons, he blames other people.
How to show your parents that you are an adult
Deal with problems and your own desires on your own. Learn to tame your temperament, resentment and other negative emotions.
Don't shy away from responsibility. Only a child can be guided exclusively by what he wants. For an adult, there is such a thing as a duty.
Start earning. Money is a tool of an adult, with the help of which he supports himself and his loved ones.
Take care of your loved ones. Children are often selfish, while adults must provide for their loved ones and create a high standard of living for them.
Listen more and talk less. This way you will be perceived as a serious, sane and rational person who inspires the trust of others.
Try to argue less. Listen carefully to the other person's arguments and try to see the problem from their side. This behavior earns the respect of your opponent and demonstrates your maturity.
