How often do we accumulate grievances in ourselves, driving them deep inside. The gradual accumulation of negative emotions over time can provoke the emergence of various diseases. Therefore, it is necessary to learn to forgive and let go of the pain of unforgiven wrongs.
Instructions
Step 1
Many of us hold grudges against someone. This feeling is destructive and "eats" from the inside. Most often, it is it that is the cause of many diseases and ailments. Ask yourself if it is worth replaying situations from the past in your head every day when you were hurt. Thus, you are filled with negative emotions, but the past cannot be changed.
Step 2
The situations in which resentment occurs can be different. This is humiliation in the family, disrespect at work, indifference of children, etc. Much depends on the type of person. One is offended for any reason, the other must be tried to offend. This feeling itself stems from pride. It is she who gives birth to such monsters as revenge and betrayal. You can let go of pain and learn to more easily perceive life and relationships with people in the following ways.
Step 3
Memory pool technique
Many watched a series of films about the adventures of J. Rowling's book hero Harry Potter. In one of the episodes, the wizard takes out small clouds of thoughts from his head and lowers them into a special container - a "pool of memory". You can do the same with your own, postpone their thinking for "later".
Step 4
Conscious indifference technique
Try not to pay attention to words and actions that are offensive from your point of view. Imagine that all this is not being said about you or for you, but to someone else. After a while of such exercises, you will feel that many things have begun to be treated more calmly.
Step 5
Mirror technique
It is somewhat more complicated. Its meaning is to imagine yourself in the role of the person who offends you, and try to understand why he behaves this way. Usually, if an individual begins to think in this direction, then a lot becomes clear.
Step 6
Of course, it's not easy to take and stop being offended. To get a positive result and let go of severe pain, you need to work on yourself. A new habit is developed for 21 days. If you firmly decided that you need to stop living in the grip of negative emotions, then you need to be patient and work hard, and the pain will surely recede.
