When a person is offended for nothing, it is very difficult to come to terms with this state of affairs. I would like to take revenge so that justice will prevail and the person will stop feeling offended. Even in the most ancient books it was said "an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth," but after all, it was not entirely about the concept of revenge.
Revenge concept
Revenge is almost always the result of resentment. The scheme here is simple: a person has been offended, he is in pain; he thinks about how to make this oppressive feeling go away. Most often, many are not able to let go and forgive an insult, and therefore they plan revenge. However, few people think that even after revenge, the nagging feeling in the chest may not go away, and, perhaps, will also intensify due to a played out conscience or a sense of guilt.
Globally, revenge can be viewed on several levels: from certain "childish pranks" (spreading rumors, substituting in trifles, etc.) to the so-called vendetta, when completely innocent people begin to die because of two people who are unable to deal with each other. this people, wars are committed and large-scale disasters occur.
No wonder there is the phrase "revenge is the dish that is served cold." Indeed, before coming up with insidious schemes, you need to calm down and cool down. Perhaps a calm brain will be able to choose another, more acceptable solution to the problem.
Revenge and punishment
The expression "an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth" generally considers a kind of principle of justice: each person must get what he deserves. Modern realities are such that the expression is considered only in a negative way, but for some reason the positive moments are missed, although it would be much better and more humane to use this phrase in the context of an award for good deeds.
If punishment is necessary in order to restore justice in the world, then revenge is determined only by the subjective perception of the situation by a specific person. So, a person may think that someone wishes him harm, and, not understanding the situation, begins to take revenge. The driving motives of the alleged offender have not been clarified, but revenge has already taken place. Before determining the punishment, all the features of the situation are identified, the positions of both parties are considered, and this is the fundamental difference between punishment and revenge.
To revenge or forgive
Naturally, it is better to forgive offenses. Revenge is a destructive feeling, which, like resentment, causes destructive processes in the body and soul of a person.
Therefore, the main point on how to overcome your desire for revenge is release from resentment. Forgiveness, acceptance, looking into the future, not the past - all this will help to forget the offense and, perhaps, even understand the offender. It is easier for those who believe in a certain higher Absolute - God, the Cosmos, etc. - to forgive, since they believe in the highest justice and the highest court.
Another rule to remember when making any important decision is to keep a clean head. At the moment when a person is overwhelmed with emotions, mostly negative, when their hands clench themselves into fists, and the heart is ready to jump out of the chest, it is unlikely that a better way out of the situation will come to mind. Many actions performed in such a state often lead to fatal mistakes and interfere with living in peace and harmony with oneself.
