Every person wants to be meaningful to the people around him. However, if it seems to you that people do not like you, it's time to deal with your state of mind. The answer to the question “how to make you be loved” should be sought not in the people around you, but in yourself.
Instructions
Step 1
The need for love from others always appears when a person lacks love for himself. It seems to him that the love of others compensates for the emptiness inside. However, it is not. Even if the love of the people around you is in abundance, it still will not replace the love of oneself.
Step 2
Most often, problems with self-love appear in people who were disliked in childhood. A dad who is too busy with work, an indifferent mom, single-parent families, or any other reason why the child did not have enough love from the most important people in his life, did their job. The child turned into an adult who desperately seeks the love of others in order to get what he was not given in childhood. In this situation, the first thing you need to do in your soul is to reconcile with your parents, and look at the situation from the other side. Perhaps you just didn't notice that your parents love you. Perhaps, due to their character or upbringing, they did not know how to show love. But practically all parents love their children. If you think about it, you will surely find proof of this.
Step 3
People who are used to scolding themselves will surely have problems with self-love. Even if you constantly say how bad you are, even in a joking way, the subconscious mind will fix it, and you will feel that way. So stop berating yourself and start praising. And to praise for any reason. Even if you just washed your plate after yourself, be sure to praise yourself.
Step 4
It is extremely helpful to keep a progress journal where you will write down all the good things you did over the past day. It is recommended to re-read the diary in the morning, it will energize you for the whole day.
Step 5
Love yourself. Behave with yourself the way you do when you love another person. Buy yourself whatever you want, spoil yourself with gifts and pleasant surprises, say nice things to yourself.
Step 6
Find an island of self-love within you. Do it more and more every day, feel like you are flooded with love coming from an inner source. Do this regularly, and very soon you will feel that you do not have any thoughts about how to make others love you, because you yourself are full of love for yourself.
