Leaving conflicts without resolution, in other words, getting away from them, is not an effective strategy in interpersonal relationships. Any conflict requires a solution, and one of the most effective ways to resolve it is compromise.
Instructions
Step 1
In the most general sense, a compromise is a way of resolving a conflict situation through the provision of mutual concessions. In this conflict resolution strategy, unlike the others, neither side wins, but neither side wins. It is often this form of getting out of the conflict that is the most effective for maintaining relationships with people.
Step 2
When the points of view of the parties are completely different, but the relationship with the enemy in the conflict is very significant, compromise is the best solution. Also, a compromise as a way of resolving a conflict situation is applicable if the motives and goals of the opponents basically coincide and certain life principles and personal values are not affected. Thus, it is more expedient to solve minor everyday and business conflicts with the help of mutual concessions.
Step 3
A huge advantage of compromise as a way of resolving a conflict is that the parties respect the agreement reached, since they voluntarily come to a solution. That is, the problem has indeed been eliminated, and both sides remain partially satisfied. Although, for the sake of joke, it is sometimes said that a compromise is a situation when the problem is solved and the goal is achieved, but everyone is unhappy, since the requirements of either side are not fully satisfied.
Step 4
In order to come to an optimal solution to the conflict, participation and the opportunity to sacrifice something from each of the parties are important. Demanding concessions without offering them from your side is not a compromise. It is necessary to find a solution that would be beneficial to both parties. First you need to evaluate what you can sacrifice on your part, and then figure out what you would like to receive from the second participant in the conflict. It is advisable to put yourself in the shoes of the opposite side in order to appreciate the honesty of such a decision.
Step 5
In search of a compromise, one should not perceive the second participant in the conflict as an adversary or rival. Ultimatums, pressure, the desire to get only personal gain will lead to the breakdown of the relationship, even if this relationship is more important for the opponent than for you. It should be remembered that the goal of this strategy is to achieve overall benefit.
Step 6
For example, a popular dispute between spouses about how to spend the weekend (the husband wants to go to a sports bar or fishing with friends, and his wife wants to go to the theater or a restaurant for a romantic dinner) can be easily resolved using a compromise strategy. For example, on the days of important matches or pre-agreed fishing dates, the wife does not prevent her husband from spending his weekends with friends, and the husband spends the days of theatrical premieres or certain family dates next to his other half. On the other hand, the husband also does not oppose his wife's meetings with her friends, but expects that after a hard day she will meet him with a hot dinner and support him in difficult times. This decision can be made on almost any issue.
Step 7
It should be noted that a compromise is not just an exchange of concessions. It is impossible to assess the concessions on the part of the parties to the conflict, since the importance of interests and values for everyone is subjective. It is also not worth sacrificing your interests in order to come to a common solution without seeing such an attitude from the opposite side. Both sides should be interested in a compromise, otherwise the meaning of such a solution to the conflict is lost.
