Conflict is an integral part of life. It is impossible to always make concessions, misunderstandings arise, people quarrel. What is the right way to act in such situations to save the family?
It is important first to identify the root cause of the conflict. Especially if the quarrel arose from scratch. Most often, such quarrels make it clear that the other half needs attention. It is better in this case to step aside, and not rush with words. After all, words can hurt painfully, and after calming down, no one will forget them.
The first solution is to make concessions. However, they must occur on both sides. You should not blindly please, since a marriage can collapse at any moment when the cup of concessions and resentments is overflowing with one.
The second way is compromise. For example, a spouse wants to go fishing, and a spouse wants to barbecue. This rest can be combined and then no one will be offended. You can't come to a decision when no one gets what they want. Then the grievances will accumulate in both, and it will be more difficult to resolve them.
The best way is collaboration. In this case, the problem should be discussed calmly, from the point of view of the person who has it. Cooperation will help to find an option that suits both sides, and the conflict will be resolved peacefully. You can invite your partner to discuss an overdue conflict over a mug of coffee or tea in a cafe, where you can calmly talk about pressing family problems.
There are situations when all of these methods do not work. In this case, it will be helpful to seek help from a third party. Most often these are family psychotherapists. These people see the situation from the outside and treat it impartially, which allows them to calmly assess it and suggest solutions to problems. It is important to know your partner, his views on life, on life and other things. Perhaps one of the spouses will have to go against himself, and if he is not ready for this, then the marriage will end.
In such situations, the main thing is to remain calm, to understand and hear your partner correctly. If you can identify the problem correctly, then it can take less time to find a solution.
Do not forget that a family is hard work. Labor for the good of two people. And in any kind of work there are difficulties. You just need to solve them together and approach this matter with maximum efficiency.
