"Gray mouse" is a "diagnosis" that girls make to themselves, often at the suggestion of affectionate friends or benevolent parents. If the image of a modest and withdrawn young lady really bothers you, you need to get rid of it. But first, it is important to understand what exactly does not suit you in yourself, and in which direction you intend to move.
Instructions
Step 1
Now, when they are not only greeted by their clothes, but also escorted home, they take a phone number, and sometimes they even get married and live their whole lives, a "gray mouse" is most often understood as a girl with modest external data. And as you know, there are no ugly women - there are lazy women. Experiment with style, add atypical things to your wardrobe (dresses - not necessarily instead of - in addition to your favorite jeans or pantsuits). Try updating your hair color, haircut, be a little bolder with your makeup. You don't have to hit the vamp image. There are many other ways to look bright: mischievous urban style, sporty chic, intelligent retro. Get rid of the hallmarks of the "mouse" - looking at the floor, stooped - and make your main "accessory" smile.
Step 2
Do what you really enjoy. To build self-confidence, get a taste for achievement and success. Sign up for aerobics or martial arts, remember your hobby for drawing or music. And most importantly - do not miss an opportunity to demonstrate your talents. A girl passionately dancing or performing karaoke songs in the company does not go unnoticed.
Step 3
Be bolder. Learn to talk to acquaintances and strangers. Ask for directions on the streets and an extra ticket in theater queues. Talk to buddies at parties and colleagues at lunchtime. If you have earned a reputation as a "gray mouse", most likely you have one very important quality of the interlocutor - the ability to listen. It remains only to learn how to build a conversation on an equal footing.
Step 4
Be gentle with yourself. More often than not, the urge to be invisible stems from the fear of failure. It can only be overcome by action. Do not dwell on failure and generously praise yourself for every victory, even the smallest one. Create a small notebook, state your goals (for example, “learn to meet on the streets,” “give talks and presentations,” “not be afraid of criticism from your manager,” and so on), and mark the steps you have taken on the path to them.
Step 5
Learn to defend your interests. "Gray mice", as a rule, are ideal wives and subordinates. They do not scandal, do not pump up the rights, they easily agree, thinking that the problem is in them. The ability to yield to others is an excellent quality, but it should not border on complete weakness. Maintain dignity in personal and business relationships, even if it seems difficult and scary at first. But as a reward, you will receive self-respect and recognition from other people.
