Probably everyone experienced a feeling of resentment. It is not always possible to hide it and often grievances end in quarrels and even enmity. Not many people want to figure out what are the true motives that drove the person who offended them, and are guided only by their feelings and drawing their own conclusions.
Instructions
Step 1
Often a person is offended precisely because his hopes were not justified. He calculates and predicts the actions of other people, completely ignoring the fact that these people think and feel quite differently from him. Therefore, he expects from others such a reaction and such actions as he would react and act. As a result, when he gets something completely different from what he expected, he perceives it as a betrayal or a desire to deliberately hurt him.
Step 2
Often this misunderstanding occurs in families where husband and wife look at the same things differently. So, for example, for more emotional and romantic-minded women, the wedding day is memorable and is a significant event in family life. For more mundane men living "here and now" this day, long gone, does not cause such nostalgic feelings and they often forget about it. Hence the reason for the resentment.
Step 3
If you look back and analyze the behavior of your acquaintances, you will see that the most offended people are those who are not confident in themselves. They constantly doubt the sincerity of the actions of others and expect trouble from them, so they tend to see insult where there was an awkward joke or even a random phrase that does not even apply to them.
Step 4
A nervous breakdown associated with constant stress, physical and emotional stress can also become the cause of increased sensitivity. A person whose nervous system is shattered, inadequately perceives others and may be offended, as they say, from scratch.
Step 5
Resentment is a destructive feeling. It can eat away at a person from the inside, spoil his character and even lead to diseases. However, resentment also has one positive property: if you can calmly explain to a person what exactly offends you and causes irritation, then he will be able to correct his behavior. If you ask him to explain his behavior, then it may turn out that there was actually no reason for resentment.
