The ability to maintain a conversation is a very valuable skill that will come in handy both in a friendly team and in the family and at work. Not everyone has the gift of eloquence, but to learn how to maintain any conversation on the shoulder of everyone, the main thing is to have a desire.
Instructions
Step 1
Learn to express your thoughts in short, understandable phrases and sentences. Reading good fiction and non-fiction books will help you with this. The more you read, the richer your speech apparatus becomes, and you have broader lexical opportunities for formulating your utterance.
Step 2
Do the following exercise: Read a large paragraph of fictional text daily, then try to summarize the point in one sentence. Time the whole process and make sure that day after day the number of seconds for thinking is reduced. This is necessary so that during a conversation you can quickly express the thought you need.
Step 3
It is not always necessary to speak, in order to maintain a conversation, you can learn to be silent correctly. This is based, first of all, on the ability to listen carefully to the interlocutor, ask questions and express interest in every possible way. In this case, the conversation will continue, and the one who is holding the speech will be pleased to be with you in the same company, as it will create the feeling that you are supporting the conversation on an equal footing.
Step 4
Ask questions, especially those that do not involve monosyllabic answers. You can think over in advance a list of questions that you want to ask your interlocutor, as well as navigate on the spot.
Step 5
Prefer to talk not about what you do not like, but, on the contrary, about what you are completely delighted with. The energy of positive emotions that will envelop you, your interlocutor or company, will remain as an impression of you for a long time, even when you forget what you admired so much.
Step 6
Also, try not to criticize other people, otherwise you may be considered a gossip, and this fame, as a rule, never fades from the consciousness of people. If you can talk about absent people in the company, everyone will get the impression that you can talk about everyone in the same way.
Step 7
Most importantly, don't be afraid to talk. Often times, embarrassment and self-doubt make us keep silent about what we would like to express. But the more often you do this, the more difficult it will be for you in the future to liberate yourself and keep the conversation on an equal footing with everyone. Treat communication easier, because everyone is waiting for you to speak up!
