Psychological problems are often based on our complexes. Freeing yourself from insecurity and becoming yourself, yourself "real" is the main step in solving psychological problems.
Necessary
the desire to get rid of insecurity, the desire to change oneself
Instructions
Step 1
We must talk about what worries. A psychological problem can give rise to a sense of shame about appearance, wealth, intelligence, etc. In this case, the person is convinced that they will think badly of him, he will be condemned or fenced off from him. The "owner" of the psychological problem imagines unpleasant scenarios for the development of events and, without testing them in practice, begins to be secretive. He imagines the behavior of others towards himself in order to justify and even maintain his awkwardness. In such a situation, you need not come up with excuses, but confess your fear. It's important to talk about what makes you worry - and not just with one closest friend. It turns out that many are ready to listen to you, not making a "verdict". In extreme cases, you can start talking about your rejection of yourself in group psychotherapy sessions. At first, the main thing is to throw out the accumulated emotions and follow the perception of the audience. Perhaps they have similar problems.
Step 2
It is necessary to act to get rid of the psychological problem. When a person does not like something in himself, he tries to compensate for this real or fictional flaw in some way. For example, someone who seems ugly to himself will try with all his might to shine with intellect everywhere. So the person suffers less - but the psychological problem remains! Try to do the opposite. Do you feel that you are unable to speak in public? Get ready and take the floor in the meeting. Are you dancing awkwardly? Sign up for a dance studio. At the same time, you should see in detail the image of yourself who has achieved success. Play the "movie" about your future achievement several times in your head.
Step 3
It is important to love! A person with a psychological problem is saved from love. If he likes someone, he will most likely stop communicating with the object of sympathy altogether, because he is sure that he will reject him in any case. And if he starts a relationship, then for the sake of preserving a negative image of himself he will devalue his beloved: “Who is he, since he managed to become interested in me?..” But love can “cure” a psychological love for love: this is how you can feel yourself a strong and courageous person, capable of moving mountains for the sake of a partner. It is worth discovering your desire and accepting the desire of another addressed to you. Do not painfully ask the question: “Does he like me a lot?” It would be more correct to calmly ask yourself: “Am I good with him?"
