For many people, nothing is more difficult than asking for help. They can completely lose control over the situation and realize that they are not coping, but admitting this to themselves and asking others to help is an overwhelming burden for them. It's important to be able to ask for help when you really need it.
Instructions
Step 1
It should be understood that help is not just what you need. When a person helps someone, it is good for himself, and not only for the person whose situation he is improving. If people helped each other more often, they would be kinder. But help is only good if it is done with all the heart. In order for you to be helped from the heart, you need to ask for help in an appropriate way. In no case should you demand, scandalize, threaten, manipulate, and so on.
Step 2
Think about what kind of help you need. If you know this for sure, it will be much easier to solve your problem. Often people themselves do not understand what they need, they exhaust others who cannot help them, even if they want to, because they also do not understand what is better to do. Assess your situation soberly and think about what kind of help you want to ask for.
Step 3
When asking a person, start by describing your situation. Explain your position so that you can understand it. You don't need to dive into describing the emotions that overwhelm you. No matter how hard you try to calm down, it will still be noticeable when you begin to describe your situation. And only then tell me what kind of help you need.
Step 4
When asking someone for help, choose your words carefully. Your request should not be demanding intonation, as if you were ordering. But pleading words are also not needed, help does not imply that the one who asks should be humiliated.
Step 5
If you turn to a man for help, then try to speak more clearly and logically, operate with facts. When asking a woman for something, you can allow yourself to show more emotions, but not in the sense that you can throw a tantrum. It's just that women understand feelings better, they are more likely to understand your feelings and realize that you need help through empathy.
Step 6
When you ask a person for help, leave him the opportunity to refuse so as not to offend you. Help should not be required, and if you are helped, it should not be because you have put the person in an unbearable condition with your words or actions. If you have such a habit, then you run the risk of being left without friends or close people, since few people will like such an appeal.
