The constant cry of parents at a child leaves an indelible mark on his entire future life. Even if the negative moments from early childhood are erased in memory, a similar demeanor with others will be laid on a subconscious level. Children who experience constant parental aggression grow up either cruel or weak-willed.
Raising your voice in communication, whether with an adult or with a child, is not an option. On the contrary, psychologists view this fact as an indicator of weakness. That is, finding a reasonable way out of this curious situation and making convincing arguments is much more difficult than just yelling, thereby freeing yourself from the accumulated negative emotions. Often, adults cannot afford such behavior at work and break down at home on their own child because of a trifling prank. He won't answer. At the same time, the received dose of negativity in the service found a way out. Only it hardly became easier.
What should a child do with this negativity?
It is not for nothing that it is said that children are a copy of their parents. Unknowingly, they are exactly copying the behavior of adults. It is not at all necessary that the child will direct his anger towards the offender - the adult. Rather, he will do about the same as they did to him: he will find someone else. And soon you can already notice that the grown-up child behaves the same way with his younger brother or sister, with his peers. But it is possible that the aggression of mom or dad responds with "the same coin." Aggression breeds aggression. Having engendered such a demeanor in the family, the parents then shrug their shoulders and say that the child does not understand otherwise. But what can a child do if he does not even know how it looks “differently”.
The outcome of a situation when parents constantly “talk” loudly with their child may be different. A soft, dreamy nature will simply close in her world, because no one hears or understands him anyway. Sometimes children who are yelled at actually feel guilty for all the troubles in the world. In the future, it will be difficult for a child to establish himself in adulthood due to an inferiority complex that was brought up in him since childhood. Although screaming cannot be called a method of education.
Is it possible to raise a child without screaming
The upbringing process is not a one-time moralizing from the parents, which the child must learn forever. This is hard work and, above all, on yourself, realizing that you are an example. Many parents realize that they cannot yell at a child, but they are unable to cope with their own irritation. If it is not customary in the family to constantly shout and insult each other, but because of the serious fault of the baby, they still shouted at him, we must try to correct the situation as soon as possible.
There is no need to be angry with the child for a long time after the deed, not to talk to him. He was probably already frightened by the scream and realized that he had done something wrong. The subsequent calm conversation with the child will help to draw the correct conclusions that mom and dad love him anyway and are just scared for him. Then the cry of the parents will not entail serious consequences, but the situation will be remembered for a long time.
When a raised tone in the family is the norm, it is difficult to attribute it to educational moments. It has a destructive effect on the unstable psyche of the child.
