Tears are a way of expressing emotions. They happen often in childhood, but social rules say that you don't need to cry a lot. Psychologists, however, argue that feelings cannot be kept inside, it is necessary to throw them out to the surface. There are different circumstances when tears help to live, and sometimes they only spoil everything.
Instructions
Step 1
Anyone can cry, but even in childhood, people are told that this is not good, that they need to hide their reaction to what is happening. This is due to the fact that tears cause an ambiguous reaction in others. If a baby manifests himself in this way in kindergarten, then everyone around him also begins to cry. If such behavior is in an adult, people around are very embarrassed and do not understand how to behave. It turns out that such a reaction brings very strong discomfort to everyone who is around. And if at home this can still happen, then at work such manifestations can lead to dismissal, so that the peace of mind in the team is not disturbed.
Step 2
Tears come from a variety of circumstances. Sometimes the reason can hardly be called valid, a person cries because he regrets himself very much. Instead of criticizing, trying to fix the situation, he begins to roar. From the outside, it looks like an excuse to do nothing or to shift the responsibility onto other shoulders. Tears can be a way of blackmail, as women sometimes do to convince a man that they are right. Tears can become a barrier to difficult situations when others prefer to remain silent so as not to face tantrums. These reactions are perceived as negative, they are judged, which is why people often avoid crying.
Step 3
In adolescence, sensitivity is a negative quality. If a person burst into tears in front of other people, he becomes an outcast or is often bullied. Having undergone such training, realizing that it is impossible to show weakness, a person often refuses to show emotions for many years. This is especially true for men, because in society they are assigned the role of strong and self-confident people, and if this is not done, others can react very negatively.
Step 4
Psychologists say that crying is necessary, that this is an opportunity to survive a difficult situation, to throw out painful experiences. If this is not done, then resentment or anger accumulates inside and then can cause various diseases. But you need to cry not in a crowded place, but alone with yourself. The stronger the tears, the better. After such a reaction, relief comes, the perception of the world changes, everything seems not so scary. Such actions help to relieve tension, reduce stressful conditions, and give the opportunity to smile again. Sometimes it is even useful to cry for no reason in order to remove the small emotions that have accumulated inside. To do this, you can turn on some kind of movie that is conducive to tears, or read a sad story.
