Decisiveness, perseverance (assertiveness), confidence allow any person to give a correct assessment of the situation, stand up for their point of view, reasonably make the only correct decision. People tend to believe that persistence, as a source of conflict, provokes them. They associate assertiveness with impudent, rude, assertive, unrestrained behavior. But this is by no means the case. On the contrary, persistence is a quality that helps to avoid conflicts or resolve them flexibly and with honor, dignity, taking into account the nuances of the current tense social situation.
Instructions
Step 1
Think of assertiveness as an unshakable desire to constantly defend your interests and rights in everything. Use it without resorting to unnecessary squabbles if you feel the need to defend yourself.
Step 2
Use perseverance behavioral norms to teach others to treat yourself the way you want. Learn to disagree without provoking negative resentment from opponents.
Step 3
Remember that by demonstrating sacrificial behavior, you allow others to perceive your pressing needs and interests as insignificant, so people will not reckon with you.
Step 4
Gain a reputation as a persistent person who can take risks in defending your interests, regardless of the danger of conflict with people. Strive to fight with spiritual inner fears of possible conflicts, always firmly defend your views and beliefs, not to give up your positions in life. State the importance of your priorities and needs.
Step 5
Be persistent in circumstances that involve convincing others that you are right. Refuse inappropriate offers with calm confidence. Contrary to the opinion of individual people, this can in no way be attributed to stubbornness, aggressiveness, the desire to impose one's opinion at any cost. This is nothing more than a manifestation of honesty, openness, directness in relations with others.
Step 6
Remember that an active demeanor is not at all manipulating people, not a show of strength. It is based on correct self-esteem, respect for people and oneself, excellent ability to adequately assess the situation, find optimal solutions, take responsibility for the choice made, without experiencing feelings of guilt, anxiety, anxiety.
Step 7
This quality does not mean victory at all costs. Rather, it presupposes the solution of existing problems in a calm manner, without aggression, effective overcoming of tension, the development of personal qualities that allow maintaining absolutely normal relationships with others, easy advancement in the social and career ladder.
Step 8
By showing persistent determination, prevent unwanted conflicts for you, satisfy needs, get what you want, what you deserve.
Step 9
Do not be afraid to demand from others, for example, sellers, couriers or waiters, to do what you think is right, mainly for yourself. Be an assertive person to avoid being a victim of conflicts!
