Until recently, happiness seemed endless, your relationship was cloudless and beautiful. Or, on the contrary, there were difficulties, problems and worries, but this did not make you less joyful. After all, you loved and were next to your beloved. But then everything collapsed overnight. The reason for the breakup is not important, pain always remains pain.
Instructions
Step 1
Allow yourself to feel the storm of emotions to make it easier to get over the ending of the relationship. Do not keep feelings to yourself, relax, cry, shout into the pillow. Emotions that have not found a way out, hidden in the very depths of consciousness, will still haunt you and sooner or later will make themselves felt by prolonged depression or even psychophysical illness. And having felt all the pain that you really feel, you will sooner come to your senses.
Step 2
Do not withdraw into yourself. Communicate with loved ones, ask them for support. Staying alone for a long time with your own sorrows, you are deprived of the opportunity to look at situations from the other side. You begin to feel a sense of hopelessness, so the help of others will be simply invaluable: you will see that they also have things to do and have concerns, which means that life goes on, and there remains a place for pleasant and useful events in it.
Step 3
Put off thinking about your own troubles. Use the method M. Mitchell, which she gave to the heroine of her novel, Scarlett O'Hara, think about the problems tomorrow or the day after tomorrow. Better yet, "later", in the uncertain future, when the tension subsides and there will be an opportunity for a less emotional assessment of the situation.
Step 4
Fight your own fears. They will most likely launch a surprise attack while you are weakened. Do not allow yourself to think that this is the end, that you will never have such happiness / man / relationship again. Remember that your beliefs can influence your worldview, and therefore your life.
Step 5
Make an appointment with a psychologist. He will help you with the help of special techniques to "work through" feelings, get out of depression, answer yourself the questions that haunt you. Or just call the helpline, write letters on some forum or website on topics of your concern. This technique gives, though not immediately, but tangible relief.
Step 6
Start a new life. Change whatever you see fit in it. Find an unusual hobby for yourself, change your place of work, residence, if you feel such a need. As a last resort, just change your image: cut your hair, update part of your wardrobe. After going through all the previous steps, you probably already want something new yourself.
Step 7
Work on your perception of yourself. A man should not become the center of the universe for you. This usually happens to women whose self-esteem is low, they are sure that they are happy only by being in a relationship. Learn to enjoy all aspects of life. Then you will feel its fullness and new relationships will not keep you waiting, giving you a new portion of pleasant emotions.
