Resentment is quite normal, as are sadness and joy. But for some reason, some grievances pass quickly, while others linger for a long time. The problem lies not in the grievances themselves, but in their influence, and therefore one must learn to control and reduce their impact.
Getting rid of resentment must begin with overcoming one specific resentment and deal with it from the standpoint of reason.
Instructions
Step 1
Admit to yourself that you are offended by a situation or a person. It doesn't matter who you are offended, the main thing is to admit to yourself what feelings you are experiencing while doing this.
Step 2
Forgive yourself for being offended. Precisely not because you were offended, but because you were offended.
Step 3
Determine for yourself what specifically offended you. Some words, actions or what was behind it. At the same time, analyze not the act of the offender, but your feelings.
Step 4
Understand the reason for the abuser's behavior. Don't blame or judge him. Suppose that he just had no idea how to behave differently. Maybe his act is just a natural outcome of your actions. After all, they treat us as we ourselves allow.
Step 5
Don't be silent about the insult. Avoiding the problem will not protect you from repeating the situation in the future. Talk to the abuser about your feelings. Try to refrain from reproaches, do not demand explanations and promises not to do this again. Share only your feelings and experiences. Try to negotiate and find a mutually beneficial solution.
Step 6
Refocusing also helps prevent resentment. Stop paying attention to mistakes. Celebrate what you did.
