Nowadays, you can meet a lot of lonely people. Some silently hide their misfortune, while others blame others and circumstances for their loneliness.
The main reasons for loneliness:
1. Parting or alienation of significant people.
When parents in childhood leave the child or leave for a long time alone, there is a feeling of abandonment and abandonment. Such situations in the future will lead to difficulties in establishing social contacts, as there will be fear from the past of being abandoned once again.
2. Lack of acceptance by others.
If close people are nearby, then another reason may be a lack of acceptance of personality. This can happen both in the family (where the parents do not perceive the characteristics of the child) and in society (where the person, for some reason, is not perceived by others). Such situations can cause a feeling of fear of establishing new social contacts, because there is a fear that society will once again be unable to accept individual personality traits.
3. Low self-esteem.
When there is no self-confidence, other people seem to be treated without admiration. A feeling of fear arises, because if something happens, pride will suffer, and fears of personal imperfection will once again be confirmed. An amazing paradox is that a person with low self-esteem will always see negative from the people around him.
4. Fear of betrayal.
Many loners are afraid of betrayal by the people around them and believe that it is better to keep themselves away from the world around them. Thus, the personality closes in on itself and creates a protective wall, from which it itself suffers.
5. The desire to receive, not to give.
Many require a certain attitude and attention to themselves, but at the same time they do not want to give anything in return. As a result, even if someone meets who will do everything for the relationship, over time, the couple may part, since it is very difficult to live without reciprocity. This is typical of people who are used to living primarily for themselves.
6. Manifestation of creative nature.
Loneliness is characteristic of creative natures who live in their own world. Sometimes it is difficult for them to let someone into their lives, as they are too individual. Despite creative implementation, this is not always a positive factor for establishing social contacts.
How to get out of the vicious circle of loneliness?
The problem of loneliness is common and many find it difficult to cope on their own. You can contact a psychologist, attend personal growth trainings, read books on relevant topics on your own. First of all, it should be remembered that solving problems depends only on our desire and efforts.
