Self-criticism helps a person become better. However, sometimes it turns into self-criticism, and then life becomes just an excuse for endless nagging at oneself. In order not to suffer from excessive criticality, you need to distract yourself from self-flagellation and look at yourself objectively.
Instructions
Step 1
Think about what you scolded yourself for the last time. Did you have a real excuse, or did you just succumb to a long-standing habit of punishing yourself? Realize that you are tired of constantly chasing perfection and struggling with yourself - such a fool, you think. Get ready to look at yourself in a new way.
Step 2
Control your thoughts throughout the day. Pay attention to how many times you blame yourself for something that went wrong. Write down your reproaches in a separate notebook. Let it be a stream of consciousness, do not control it.
Step 3
Reread your notes in a few days. You will probably be surprised that you were able to express so much negativity in your address. On closer examination of unpleasant situations, it will become clear to you that at least you have overdone it, placing the blame solely on yourself.
Step 4
Remember how often your parents scolded you as a child. Most likely, they were too hard on you and constantly demanded to be the best - both at school and at home. To stop engaging in self-criticism, you need to mentally return to childhood and explain to your parents that you are worthy of love - unconditional, and not one that still needs to be earned.
Step 5
Imagine that you see yourself as a side - a small crying child, who is constantly reproached for something. Tell yourself mentally: “I have the right to make mistakes, I am imperfect. This does not mean that I am bad. I forgive myself for the mistakes I make. I love myself . Repeat these words to yourself when you feel overwhelmed that you are doing something wrong.
Step 6
Make a list of your own achievements, let it always be in front of your eyes. Get sports cups, certificates of honor, awards from the mezzanine - all evidence of your success, even if for children. Look at them more often, remind yourself that you have accomplished a lot, despite the fact that you made mistakes. And your main successes are yet to come.
