Some believe that pity is a noble feeling, based on an awareness of their problems, an unfair fate and the world around them. It's a lie. Pity is the recognition of oneself as a helpless, weak person who depends on the environment and its circumstances.
Instructions
Step 1
The first step to stop feeling sorry for yourself is to acknowledge that you have a feeling of self-pity and not hide it. This is the most difficult step on the path to getting rid of self-pity, because it is very difficult for us to admit our bad sides.
Step 2
Further, in order to get rid of that feeling of self-pity, you need to track this feeling: in what situations and for what purposes it manifests itself in you. You may often feel sorry for yourself when you are reprimanded at work. In fact, it makes no sense to feel sorry for yourself here: the situation will not change, but you will quickly acquire hatred for work.
Step 3
Once you understand where this self-pity comes from, start replacing it with other feelings and thoughts - cheerful and positive ones. For example, if it seems to you that your loved ones do not appreciate your help, and you constantly regret yourself for it, then think: you are a good person, you do a lot of good for your loved ones, which means you have great opportunities. And they are not at all obliged to answer you in kind, you help them, because you love them. When you stop waiting for stormy gratitude from your family and help them from the bottom of your heart, they will begin to appreciate you and your actions.
Step 4
To stop feeling sorry for yourself, every time you feel like doing it, you need to write down the complaint on a piece of paper. Read it as if it is not yours, but belongs to a stranger. Try to understand how it makes you feel. What would you like to say to this person? In this case, you need to be honest, do not use standard feelings of sympathy, say what you really think. This method will give you an opportunity to look at yourself from the outside and understand how meaningless and depressing self-pity can be.
Step 5
When you stop feeling sorry for yourself, you will understand how much you have lost in life and how many opportunities for the future you have gained.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself, create your own life!
