Disappointment in oneself, lack of confidence in one's own strengths, low self-esteem - all this can lead to depression and other sad consequences, for example, to desocialization. It is possible to regain faith in yourself, but this requires some effort.
Feeling worthless: causes and methods of getting rid of it
Analyze why you got the feeling of worthlessness? Perhaps you have experienced some kind of traumatic situation or a series of various failures, as a result of which you developed a persistent rejection of yourself? Try to understand that in your failures, most likely, it was not your fault, it was just that the circumstances developed. Remember that no one is immune from mistakes and mistakes, they are made by everyone, even the most successful and self-confident people.
Give up self-criticism, do not scold yourself for every reason and for no reason. Do not seek to blame yourself in any situation. Do not allow in conversations with relatives, friends, colleagues, etc. value judgments about oneself. For example, many insecure people like to repeat phrases such as: “Yes, it's my fault,” “I was stupid again,” “Well, I'm a fool …”, etc. From now on, such phrases should not be in your vocabulary.
Build self-confidence. Find an interesting hobby, sign up for any courses, for example, English and set a goal for yourself to master it at least at the level of fluent reading of English literature - this will dramatically increase your self-esteem. Purchase a subscription to the pool, gym, etc. As you become physically stronger, you will also begin to respect yourself more.
Praise and reward yourself for even your smallest accomplishments. For example, you read a good book or prepared something tasty and beautiful, encouraged someone, instilled hope for the best in someone - all this, like many other things that you do, deserve praise!
Get rid of stereotypes of thinking. For example, when you were in school, you were told all the time that you are an incapable student, that you are not getting anything efficient. Having become accustomed to this label, glued to you as a child, you continue to go through life as a poor student: do not strive for new knowledge, do not take responsibility, etc. But here it is important to understand that the teacher could simply not consider the potential of your personality, did not find an individual approach to you in the learning process, and failed to reveal all your abilities.
Realistic goals and self-confidence are the main ingredients for success
Set realistic goals for yourself, achieve them using the principle of small steps. For example, let's say you decide to pursue a college degree. Rejoice at every little success on the way to achieving your main goal: a successfully passed test, a lecture you listened to on a particular subject, the end of the next course - all these are reasons for joy.
Do not lose faith in yourself, strive to conquer new heights, despite any value judgments of others, and you will gain self-confidence and get rid of the feeling of uselessness and worthlessness.
Help others - with a smile, a kind word, sympathy, concrete deeds. There are many truly unhappy and lonely people in the world who really need your help. Pay attention to children raised in orphanages, lonely elderly people, patients of hospices and other similar institutions - they all need simple human participation. It is important that your help comes from the heart and is sincere.
Do not seek to assert yourself at the expense of others, remember that truly wise people strive for self-expression. Your goals don't have to coincide with those of the people around you - who said you should live the way they do? Set your goals, live the way you want to live. Remember your dream, because you have a network of it. Just go to her and you will find happiness and self-confidence.
