Criticizing and condemning others has become a habit for many. Finding flaws in others, we create the illusion of our own superiority. But any bias can also expose our weaknesses, because what irritates us most about people usually lies in ourselves.
Instructions
Step 1
There are no ideal people, as well as absolutely right in their thoughts and actions. Each of us has our own experience, knowledge and beliefs, which do not always coincide with the “life baggage” of another person, not to mention character. Our judgments often do not take into account personal characteristics, and it is they that are the key to understanding our neighbor.
Step 2
To stop judging other people means learning to accept them for who they are. But only those who have realized their own imperfection are capable of forgiving other people's mistakes and weaknesses. Before you judge someone, think about your shortcomings. For example, if a person does not understand a topic, instead of judging his mental limitations, remember what gaps in your knowledge you have. Thus, you will not extol yourself either, and you will not offend him: “I know more about this, but he is about something else”, “I have such interests, he has such”.
Step 3
Often, not only weaknesses, but also the actions of others fall under our strict assessment. If we can still come to terms with some external flaws, then a specific action, which we find strange or immoral, causes a storm of indignation in us. This storm turns into a real hurricane when we begin to condemn someone's behavior among our acquaintances.
Step 4
This usually ends with the fact that a single act of a person completely unfairly becomes a reflection of his essence. So, if an employee does not stay once or twice at a corporate party, he is labeled “not friendly”, “has no team spirit”. Although in reality he is sociable, he has problems at home, and he is in a hurry to visit his family, and does not want to talk about his personal experiences at work.
Step 5
Before making a verdict, you need to understand the motives that people are guided by when committing certain actions. It is easiest to say “I would never have done that”, but not everyone can put oneself in the shoes of another and understand the reasons for his actions.
Step 6
Perhaps a person does not even know that someone is evaluating his actions badly. Let's say your friend dresses completely tasteless. In his family, clothes were never given special importance, so he dressed according to the principle "if only it was comfortable" all his life. We, seeing him in a clumsy suit, do not miss the opportunity to laugh at the appearance of his brother, while a mocking style of addressing the "eccentric" is established in our circle. This feature unwittingly made him an outcast, although he is a good person in himself.
Step 7
Everything could have turned out differently if we accepted him as he is, or at least suggested which clothes would look better on him. And so in everything. If we are benevolent to everyone, then we will be treated the same way. Understanding and acceptance is the basis of harmonious relationships, not only with others, but also with oneself.
