To stop judging yourself, understand that everyone makes mistakes in life. Forget some moments of the past, live in the present. Work on yourself and don't think bad.
Necessary
- - paper;
- - pen.
Instructions
Step 1
To stop judging yourself, first find out the reasons for the judgment. Put all unnecessary thoughts out of your head, sit down and think about what you blame yourself for. At the same time, it is important not to pay attention to public opinion and not to take into account the gossip of enemies and the slander of enemies.
Step 2
If character traits are the cause of condemnation, then understand that each person is a person with their own quirks and characteristics. Take a piece of paper, divide it in two, and write down all your strengths and weaknesses. If this is difficult for you, seek help from a loved one who has known you well and for a long time. If there are more pluses than minuses, then there is no reason for condemnation. But even if this is not the case, do not be discouraged. You need not condemn yourself, but work on yourself. Think about what you need to change to stop beating yourself up and blaming yourself. And you also need to learn to accept and love yourself with all your shortcomings.
Step 3
If you judge yourself for your behavior, find out why you are behaving this way. What drives you to bad words or actions? If you find a good reason, then figure out if you can fix it. If this cannot be done, then understand that your behavior is quite normal and is a means of protection or adaptation to certain conditions or circumstances. If the reason for negative behavior is the inability to control your emotions, thoughts and actions, then try to learn how to do it. Consider every word, every phrase, every action.
Step 4
To stop judging yourself, think realistically and objectively. Sometimes expectations do not align with reality, which leads to disappointment. Evaluate situations soberly and do not expect something impossible from yourself. You are a simple person, not a magician.
Step 5
If you blame and condemn yourself for some past act that you cannot forget about, then go back to the past and assess the situation. First, look at everything from the outside, evaluate your actions and decisions objectively. What made you do this? Second, think about what you would do under those circumstances now. If you think you made a mistake, then understand that everyone is wrong. At that time, you did not have as much experience and knowledge as you do now. Therefore, understand for yourself that you did everything in your power at that time.
