It is impossible to achieve great success in this or that activity if you do not take responsibility for its result. Shifting responsibility on others and unwillingness to take responsibility for their actions lead to conflicts in relationships and the inability to complete the work begun to the end.
Stop making excuses
In any situation, there are always factors that you cannot control. At the same time, irresponsible people try to shift responsibility onto others or write off everything on circumstances, thus trying to justify themselves. At such moments you can hear from them: "I am not responsible for this, because they …", "I would have done it if it were not for …". Such expressions betray a person's desire to relieve himself of any responsibility. First of all, pay attention to your speech, do not use such constructions as: "I would", "if", etc. Next time, think about why you really didn't achieve the desired result. Think about your own actions, what stopped you? Were you tired, were you lazy, did you feel unwell? Admit it to yourself and name the real reasons for failure.
Admit mistakes
If you do not admit your mistakes and continue to look for the causes of failure in others, you risk not only relationships with others, but thus also waste your own time. Not wanting to admit mistakes, you just brush off the problem, instead of solving it, this in turn is guaranteed to lead to the fact that you will make similar mistakes again and again. Learn to admit that you were wrong, say: "This is my mistake, it will not happen again …". Later, being in a similar situation, you can choose a different method of action, avoiding the repetition of mistakes and not shifting your responsibility to others.
Stop blaming and complaining
If you are constantly looking for the cause of your failures in anyone, but not in yourself, you cannot change your life for the better, these failures will haunt you. For example, if you are often late for work and blame the drivers for being stuck in traffic, you will continue to be late. If you get a bad grade on an exam and blame it on the teacher who teaches you poorly, you will continue to get bad grades. Accusations will make you not only irresponsible, but also vindictive. Complaining about others is another way of shifting responsibility. Stop playing the victim and admit that no one owes you anything. Being a victim will not only make you look irresponsible, but it may also cause others to stop respecting you.
Self-discipline
If you want to take responsibility for your actions and not pass it on to others, discipline yourself. Set clear goals for yourself, tell yourself how and when they should be solved. Set goals for yourself before starting any work. Motivate yourself to work and get ready for tough challenges. Be prepared for the fact that you will face problems that you cannot solve right away. Remember that as you develop yourself, you will learn to find rational approaches and overcome crisis situations. Try to reward yourself when you achieve your goals and complete the work you are taking on.
