A person trying to control his entire environment, in fact, wants everyone around to act in a certain way, he has his own expectations about their actions. This behavior inevitably leads to many frustrations and conflicts. To get rid of the habit of controlling people, you need to work on yourself.
Instructions
Step 1
One of the main reasons some people control their environment is their pursuit of excellence. They do not like half-measures, strive to achieve the perfect result and demand the same from other people. Not meeting understanding from others, they can lose their temper, get involved in conflicts, engage in moralizing, etc. Thus, they only interfere with life for themselves and those around them. To get rid of this behavior, you must admit your imperfection and that everyone around you has their own shortcomings, as well as views on certain things. It is good to be a solid person, but being overly scrupulous and exacting to everything often harms the interaction with the people around you.
Step 2
Another common reason for a person's desire to control people is his belief that he knows better than others how to act in a given situation. The reasons for this confidence can be very different, for example, the fear of making a mistake or admitting that you do not know something. To get rid of this, you need to try to let go of the situation and trust the opinion of someone from the environment. Admit that you have your vulnerabilities and you could be wrong.
Step 3
Low self-esteem is another common reason for being in control of others. Some people are afraid of being alone, they believe that even their friends do not want to be near them and in order to keep them, it is necessary to constantly tell them what they need to do, how they need to act. Another manifestation of low self-esteem is the feeling that a person should constantly and in everything to help his friends. Such people have the feeling that they are leaving their friends to their fate if they do not help them. However, over-focus quickly turns into control. It is very difficult to get rid of this behavior on your own. In some cases, the help of a psychologist may be required.
Step 4
Learn to trust the people around you. Recognize that they are competent in their field and have more knowledge in some areas than you. Trust is especially important when dealing with family and friends. Try not to give them instructions on how to deal with different situations. This suggests that you do not trust them, think they are not smart enough and are not able to solve issues without your participation.
Step 5
One form of control over the environment is the habit of constantly giving advice. Often this turns into an everyday phenomenon for a person, he begins to advise others even in small things. It's easy to break this habit; you need to stop giving advice altogether. Remove words like “recommend”, “advise”, etc. from your speech.
