Resentment is an obsessive feeling that negatively affects the person who experiences it. Coping with this is not easy and sometimes a person is not able to control himself and his emotions.
Resentment is a deadly weapon for the soul, because without realizing it, we literally hurt it, destroying it. How resentment manifests itself. Resentment can manifest itself in a variety of ways. People begin to be silent or cry, sink into themselves, get nervous, get angry. In any case, a person should be aware that nothing can be changed by this. And the offender will always find a way to justify himself in order to present himself in the best light. Resentment against the actions of others is a protective reaction of the body to external factors that a person considers to be wrong.
Resentment is detrimental to self-esteem. By doing this, you are unwittingly trying to remove psychological stress and stress so as not to go to the bottom. How to get rid of resentment. First you need to describe everything that is stored inside you during an offense. What did you think about, how you behaved. Write it all down on a white sheet of paper, not missing any of the smallest details, then tear the sheet and burn everything. Flush the ashes down the toilet or throw them in the trash. What feelings were caused by the abuser. Were you scared? Feeling hopeless or hateful?
Analyze all this carefully, understand yourself. Imagine what you think the offender should have done to smooth his guilt. Forget the "not" particle. For example, "he needs to talk to me heart to heart and sort things out." Answer the questions: What caused the person to act this way? What have I done wrong? What influenced? No need to justify anyone, be honest with yourself. Did he know about my expectations? What did I expect from him? Do I deserve this behavior towards me? What could have influenced the situation?
You need to let go of this feeling because it kills and destroys you from the inside out. Once you let go of everything, it will become much easier for you to move on.
