The feeling of resentment is familiar to every person. Resentment that penetrates the heart poisons the mood and can even negatively affect the physical condition. How to cope with resentment, prevent it from transforming into prolonged depression?
If you are offended, first of all try to calm down, so that in a state of passion you do not commit acts, the consequences of which will be difficult to correct.
Auto-training techniques, a walk in the fresh air or, if possible, any relaxing procedure will help to cope with the primary manifestations of resentment. If you allow the offense to develop, then a whole bunch of negative emotions can be added to this feeling: disappointment, bewilderment, annoyance, anger and even a desire for revenge.
It is important to realize that resentment is most often unjustified expectations. You did not receive the expected actions from any person, or vice versa - you did not receive at all what you wanted or deserved, in your opinion.
Find out if your opponent could have known or at least assumed about your expectations. Did you tell him about your aspirations or were you just waiting for him to figure it out? Very often women are offended by men, expecting from them something that they do not even know about.
Include self-criticism and think: maybe your touchiness is a manifestation of hypertrophied pride, when everything around you is not going your way, and you are trying to attract special attention to yourself with your demonstrative offenses. Then you honestly need to admit that you are poisoning life not only for yourself, but also for those around you.
Try this psychological trick that effectively relieves resentment: Imagine yourself as an advocate for your abuser and try to defend your opponent. It is quite possible that you will begin to reflect adequately, then you will be able to justify your offender and understand why the misunderstanding happened. And to understand is already a big step towards forgiving.
Forgiving your offender at least in your heart is the best thing that you can do for your peace of mind, even if you have not apologized to you. After forgiveness, you will get rid of exhausting internal monologues and dialogues with the abuser and restore spiritual harmony. Christians themselves are the first to ask forgiveness from their offenders, rightly believing that they themselves are to blame for this offense. In this act, such wonderful human qualities as humility, wisdom, kindness, peacefulness and generosity are manifested.
