How often do you feel offended? Resentment is one of the most common emotions a person can experience. Better, of course, when it does not arise. But what if a person is still offended by someone and how to reduce this feeling?
Resentment is a negative emotion that often torments a person and does not allow him to breathe deeply. Often, an offended person cannot think adequately, enjoy life and maintain good relations with the one who caused his bad mood or even tears. How can you avoid or minimize negative emotions?
One way to make the resentment weakened is to shift your focus to something fun. This can be a favorite hobby, talking with a positive person, reading, and even meditation. The ultimate goal is to focus attention and switch a person from tormenting emotions to an interesting activity. It provides temporary relief from negative feelings. However, in order for peace in the soul to be not temporary, but permanent, it is important to understand the essence of the resentment and, based on this, begin to reduce mental pain.
The first thing to remember is that this emotion is similar to disappointment. A person builds a positive image in his brain, which most often cannot meet his expectations. In other words, these expectations are unrealistic. If a person is late, forgets to tell you something important, or simply cannot say that he loves you, then it is quite possible that for one reason or another he cannot do this. He will definitely show you his love and respect, but he will achieve his goal in other ways.
Resentment is a multi-element feeling. First, there are expectations about the other person. Secondly, this is the discrepancy between the expected behavior and the one that has already been traced in the brain. And thirdly, it is a comparison of the behavior that was expected with what actually happens. If a person does not behave at all in the way expected of him, then an unpleasant sensation arises, called resentment. Therefore, you need to get rid of expectations and stereotypes of thinking.
Resentment is an unpleasant feeling that strikes the soul and makes you almost lose your head. If you do not cope with it, then in the future a person may develop various diseases, since it is known that "all diseases are from the nerves." That is why it is important not only to satisfy the offense, but also to make it weak and harmless.
