It is generally accepted that people, for the most part, lose friends with age: everyday worries and increased responsibility separate people who were once so close. But it happens that friendship goes away for other reasons.
Instructions
Step 1
Ironically, the most common reason for losing friends is frustration. It happens that a person seems so interesting to you that you quickly get closer to him, you even get the feeling that you are very similar and as if you have known each other for a long time. You are fun and interesting together, but over time, a sobering sets in: the person does not treat you with the attention that you expected from him, or says some things that seem wild to you. Try to be more attentive, perhaps you are transferring your ideals of friendship to new acquaintances too quickly or in a hurry to share everything you have with the first people you meet.
Step 2
The reason for the communication has disappeared. It happens that people are friends not because they feel very good or interesting together, but simply because it is beneficial to them. For example, this is often the case with fellow workers. Rarely do you manage to establish a truly deep and warm relationship with anyone. If you quit, then this friendship, more often than not, is torn. An exception may be friendship at school or university: in childhood and adolescence, people converge faster and more willingly, even if they do not have much in common. Such friendships can last for decades, despite differences in views and life paths. If you feel that you are losing friends because you no longer see them for "official" reasons, then just try to call them and invite them somewhere. Perhaps you can sit perfectly in a cafe with old colleagues, and go to a club or a movie with friends from the university.
Step 3
People change. It happens that friendship collapses, because the development of each of the friends takes place in their own direction. Once you were interested with this person, you could spend hours discussing certain things, laughing and joking. Whatever you did together was fun and exciting. But now you are meeting with an old friend and you realize that everyone is furtively looking at the clock and thinking when it will be possible to finally politely leave without offending the interlocutor. It happens that for the sake of order, a couple of meetings still happen, but such a faded friendship will not last long. There is nothing you can do about it - the faded interest cannot be returned by artificial methods.
Step 4
Escape from problems. It happens that friendship collapses with the closest and true friends. Sometimes life presents people with problems that they cannot solve correctly. Everything that is even in the least bit close to the true inner world of a person cries out that he is making a mistake. True friends may not say out loud what they think, but a person understands that they do not approve of his new hobby or a change in direction. If people cheat on themselves, then the most sincere friends often leave them for this very reason. Probably, this way of losing a friend is the saddest, because a person loses not only a friend, but also some part of himself. To prevent this from happening, you should try to always be as sincere as possible with yourself. Old devoted friends, no matter how life develops, these are very important people for you. Don't let circumstances destroy your friendship.
Step 5
Irresponsibility and personal flaws. Sometimes friends get lost when one of them does not behave in the best way. For example, when caught in a love triangle, a couple of friends are likely to quarrel over a third person. Or a friend may ask for a loan of a large amount of money that he needs, and even if he really wants to repay the debt, but everything fails, then he simply begins to avoid the one who lent him these funds. Unfulfilled promises lead to the same thing. The closer friends are, the more cautious you should give them the floor or enter into financial or business relationships with them. It happens that friendship does not withstand such a load.
