Not every person can proudly declare that he is in extremely pleasant friendly relations with himself. More and more people suffer from intrapersonal conflicts, are prone to self-accusation and auto-aggression. If you still want to become a reliable and close friend for yourself, you can use some methods, the result of which will not be long in coming.
Wanting to make friends with yourself, first of all, you need to eradicate the habit of scolding yourself for everything. Self-flagellation is not capable of leading to anything good, it destroys mental health, negatively affects physical well-being. When establishing contact with yourself, you need to learn how to compliment yourself, to encourage and praise yourself, even over the smallest things. Third-party approval of some deeds and actions can be very valuable, but it will crumble into nothing if you underestimate yourself. Developing self-esteem is an important moment for forming a friendly bond with your inner self.
It is necessary to understand that your self-esteem should not have a direct correlation - dependence - on the opinions of the people around you. It is impossible to be nice and perfect for everyone. Problems, disagreements, different views on life and any situations - all this is the norm for human society. Unhealthy criticism, any offensive and completely groundless remarks, etc. should not become something that will underestimate your self-esteem, your self-worth. Learn to see the good in the bad, smile together in order to be sad, and the world around you will begin to change.
Give yourself some indulgence. So, for example, it is not worth doing work through "I can not", ignoring sleep and rest. It is always important to listen to the signals from the psyche, to the calls from your body. Developing an attentive attitude to yourself and your needs, you can gradually make friends with your inner "I", which will become a faithful assistant and advisor in important matters.
Try to surround yourself with people who are positive, who love their mind and body, who strive to develop and not be afraid to act. You need to get rid of a toxic atmosphere, abusive relationships, reduce negativity in life to a minimum, learn to resist manipulation and stress. This will temper your character, it will allow you to develop morally and strengthen the connection with yourself. Always remember that people around you, in one way or another, have an impact on you and on your life.
Gradually learn not to criticize yourself in a harsh manner. Of course, in some cases criticism helps to develop, but if it becomes too much, if it is completely negative and, moreover, unjustified, it begins to destroy you from the inside. Allow yourself small weaknesses from time to time and don't be ashamed of it. Also, try to gradually let go of the toxic emotions that have accumulated inside - fear, guilt, resentment, shame, anger, and so on. Your inner “I” will say “thank you” for such a “cleaning”.
To develop a friendship with yourself, accept your uniqueness. Stop leveling with other people, do not try to become someone else's copy. You are a unique person. Only by realizing this, you can get rid of a number of intrapersonal conflicts. Along with this, learn to correctly and with dignity accept compliments, signs of attention, support, care, love and attention.
Do not forget to regularly take time for self-development. This is extremely important for working out various problems hidden within, for self-improvement and reaching new heights.
