A rare person has never faced passive aggression from the outside, or he himself was not in a state of silent protest, when indignation boils inside, but there is no way to express emotions. There are people who constantly restrain their inner impulses, gradually becoming passive aggressors. What provokes this condition?
According to statistics, it follows that men rather than women gravitate towards passive aggression. Such restraint of emotions can gradually lead to both problems in communicating with people and to quite serious disorders that affect the psyche. Some psychiatrists are of the opinion that a passive aggressor is a diagnosis that such people have a mental disorder and need some treatment.
A negative personal experience can induce a tendency to passive aggression. When in a certain situation a person flared up, expressed his dissatisfaction, but in the end, circumstances developed in such a way that he found himself in a very disadvantageous position. Traumatic life experience, constant memories of unpleasant events push a person to suppress emotions, to silent protest and passive behavior. However, this is only one of the reasons for passive aggression, and it is not the most common.
People with certain personality traits, with certain outlooks on life and with some intrapersonal problems often develop a tendency to silent aggressive behavior. On the basis of what is passive aggression formed?
5 internal causes of passive aggression
Increased anxiety. Very anxious people have extremely difficult relationships with situations where they have to argue, prove their point of view, defend their interests or express dissatisfaction. They are afraid of further developments, preferring to move away from conflicts that could further increase anxiety and cause anxiety. Trying to "escape" from unpleasant sensations, such individuals hold back negative emotions inside themselves. They are sullenly silent, reluctantly agree to perform any duties that are unpleasant for them. The inability to give vent to your emotions becomes the reason for the formation of passive aggression.
Shyness and indecision. If a person is by nature very constrained, shy, modest, it is difficult for him to demonstrate his true feelings. He is afraid to attract undue attention to himself, to stand out from the crowd, in any way to show his individuality. Often, these personality traits are associated with low self-esteem. However, such people can experience a whole storm of negative feelings within themselves when they have to “cave in” under the opinion of other people.
Statement. People who are led are often also very trusting, impressionable, open to the world and ready to accept someone else's point of view. However, gradually passive-aggressive behavior begins to form in such individuals. Often it is due to the fact that a person obeys the people around him, endures, accepts their opinion and their attitudes, but at one point the feeling of protest inside becomes very strong. People who are prone to affective reactions and impulsive behavior will not restrain themselves in such a situation, they will show true emotions. However, individuals who are quiet and driven will confine themselves to only a silent protest.
Addiction. In this case, psychological dependence can be different. In one case, a person does not show his true emotions, taking the position of a passive aggressor in a work collective. This is required by the circumstances, because due to the demonstration of dissatisfaction and because of scandalous behavior, you can lose your job. In another case, a person tacitly agrees to everything when he is dependent on his partner or his parents. It is dominated by the fear of losing a person / people, getting into an extremely awkward position, fear of being alone or going outside of your personal comfort zone.
Striving to be good for everyone. There is a category of people who do their best to please everyone and everyone. They do not know how to refuse, say "no", they are not able to withstand even slight pressure from the outside. Such people want to be spoken of exclusively positively, so that everyone and everything set them up as an example or equal to them. They strive to take the position of the "ideal person". However, at the same time, individuals with such a desire have to suppress their desires, forbid themselves to speak out on the topic of any questions, so as not to destroy their reputation. On the basis of this, sooner or later, a tendency towards passive aggression begins to develop.
