Description of the state of a person in despair. The main reasons why it occurs. effective methods of dealing with this condition, as well as possible preventive measures.
It is common for people to face problems and obstacles in life. Some successfully overcome them or try to ignore them, coping with problems as they arise. But if a person tries to get rid of problems, and they overwhelm him with renewed vigor, then psychologically he can plunge into an unpleasant state called despair. In advanced cases, it tends to degenerate into depression.
The causes of despair
There are certain reasons why a person gets desperate. The most common are:
- Pessimistic attitude.
- Inability to confront problems.
- Lack of willpower or weak development.
- Feelings of self-pity.
These states lead not only to psychological devastation, but can bring a person to a critical point. Psychologists noted that people prone to self-criticism, suspiciousness, excessive modesty succumb to despair to a greater extent. These people do not know how to correctly express their own feelings and emotions, which, accumulating in the body, gradually lead to stress.
If you learn to suppress these states in yourself, then you can get rid of despair once and for all, like some unpleasant disease. It is possible that for this some people will need the help of a psychologist and psychotherapist, but you can try to get rid of despair on your own.
Control methods and prevention
Before starting the struggle, one should ask the question of whether the person himself likes to be in such a state. If the answer is negative, then the person wants to change the life situation.
You should start with the first reason - pessimism. The ability to look at all things positively relieves a person from the feeling of doom. Even if there are problems in life, having a good mood, it is much easier to cope with them. The inability to cope with difficult life situations also exacerbates the situation. It is important to learn here that problems accompany a person throughout his life. And this applies not only to ordinary people, but also to public figures. Problems should be treated as lessons that impart wisdom and life experience.
Lack of willpower is often the cause of despair. Sometimes a person is simply afraid to take a step towards improvement, fearing the unknown. He may be afraid that things will get worse. But in reality, there is nothing worse than the onset of despair, so you should not be afraid of change. Excessive self-pity and selfishness lead to despair. Here, first of all, it is necessary to change the attitude towards oneself. It is important to see and admit your own shortcomings, then the attitude of others will change for the better.
Despair begins to overwhelm a person not because of piled up problems, but from a wrong attitude towards oneself, towards life and others. If a person, recognizing his shortcomings, begins to change for the better, it will become clear to him that life is not so bad. And this is the best remedy for despair.
