A person begins to feel despair when he does not know what to do in a given situation. This state is completely unproductive. Falling into it, a person begins to think with difficulty and feels a fear of acting. You can learn to be stronger than despair if you train yourself with certain psychological attitudes.
Instructions
Step 1
Master the technique of calm presence. This means maintaining a conscious calm in the perception of the events taking place around you. Observe everything that happens impartially and carefully, like a video camera. It should not evoke emotions in you, but be perceived as a sequence of facts.
Step 2
How to develop this in yourself? Start by practicing the skill of contemplating a pleasant landscape: water, forests, paintings, etc. Then train yourself to look at people calmly and without emotion. Do not look away without twitching or making unnecessary gestures. Next, train yourself to look at an entire group of people without feeling emotion. And then start practicing a calm presence surrounded by people who are trying to take you out of peace of mind.
Step 3
Having mastered the technique of calm presence, you will be able to look at any situation without fear, emotion or personal expectations. Develop the habit of being in a state of calm presence, this will be a reliable remedy for various manipulations, will help you to act effectively in stressful and unfamiliar situations, and will also help you make the right decisions. They will rely not on emotions, but on common sense.
Step 4
Learn the technique of mental insurance. You can insure your worries against loss. How to do it? Break everything that matters to yourself into three groups: people, things, events. The mental insurance technique consists of four steps. The first is a greeting. Let's say you bought a cell phone. Greet him, feel that he has now become your dear and close thing. Take it into your life (second stage). And then, while you have not yet grown your soul to him, say goodbye to him. Imagine that it is no longer there, because sooner or later another model will replace it (third stage). Then - the fourth stage, the most important one. Ask yourself: will you be happy if you no longer have this phone? By answering in the affirmative, you will understand that life continues after the loss of things, and after the loss of people, as well as after the events that happened to you.
Step 5
The more things, events and people you will thus "run" through the method of mental insurance, the more invulnerable you will become. Master it in stages, first things and events, then people. In addition to emotional stability, the technique of mental insurance will teach you to take care of everything that you sooner or later lose.
Step 6
Know how to distinguish between mental insurance and negative programming. It is done against the background of the fear of loss, while insurance is your deliberate action, which you carry out against the background of a relaxed and calm state of mind. Negative programming just leads to the development of fear of losing something, while insurance teaches you to perceive losses as inevitable and completely experienced, allowing you to carefully and attentively treat objects and people dear to you.
