In our time, it is not so easy for a young family to acquire their own housing. Many couples rent quite expensive housing, and they have to save up for their own apartment not only for years, but for decades. For those who do not want to spend extra money and prefer to live for their own pleasure, there is only one way out - to live with their parents. This option is fraught with both positive and negative sides.
Pros and cons of living with parents:
1. The attitudes and habits of relatives. Each family has its own rules of conduct. For example, someone is used to closing the door to a room, but for someone it may seem ignorant. The purchase of household appliances can also cause complaints from the older generation, because a toaster or a juicer will seem to them an excess and a whim.
2. Material question. This point is the most important when living together. You should immediately discuss who will pay the bills or buy groceries, and who will clean the house or cook. Unresolved problems can escalate into serious conflicts.
3. Advice from parents. Invaluable advice from a mother-in-law or mother-in-law is often useful, but sometimes it turns into endless moralizing. Even psychologists confirm that the intervention will not benefit a young family, even if it comes from very wise people.
4. Leisure of a young family. Many couples, after moving to their parents, believe that parties on their territory are no longer possible. There is also something to discuss here: is it possible to invite friends to your place and at what time meetings with them should end, are card games or music permissible. It is worth remembering that communication with friends and other couples only strengthens relationships in a young family.
5. Pregnant women and young mothers with children. There are undoubtedly advantages in such a situation: help with the child and housekeeping. However, not all parents can be so caring and understanding, and communication with them will only add even more reasons for stress.
Psychologists agree that living together under the same roof with relatives negatively affects the formation of a young couple. If there are still no other options, then it should be borne in mind that any family is a separate territory with its own rules, foundations and traditions. So you should definitely be patient and have the strength to adapt to the new environment.
