The golden rule "Everything is learned in comparison" works not only on abstract philosophical concepts, but also in real life. To understand something about ourselves or the people around us, we must compare. But in order to compare yourself with someone, you need to know how to find your pros and cons.
Instructions
Step 1
Remember the situations when you were able to help someone absolutely disinterestedly, without any illusions about the reward, just like that, from a pure heart. If such cases have happened in your life, give yourself a big fat plus: altruism is not in vogue these days, and you are a pleasant exception to the rule.
Step 2
Take a piece of paper and make a list of the skills and abilities that you own perfectly or almost perfectly. It can be culinary talent, aerobatics in photography, excellent possession of any instrument, the ability to draw, write poetry, compose compositions, embroider, grow trees, build and tinker … The list goes on and on. Each of us has dignity, just feel free to declare it. Have you made a list? Add one more plus.
Step 3
Consider times when you have been able to resist the temptation to do wrong. It could be a defeated attack of kleptomania, or it could be a deliberate act not to hurt one's neighbor, even to the detriment of one's own interests. If you have something to remember in this aspect, add yourself a bonus.
Step 4
Think about what you are ready for for the sake of your closest people. Remember, the cost of helping is determined by the cost of the sacrifice. Give yourself a plus or a minus for it.
Step 5
Evaluate professional qualities: when and for what you received rewards from your superiors, how much you fit your position, how easy it is for you to work. And if you have your own business - is it developing effectively? Rate yourself by this criterion.
Step 6
Think about whether you are building relationships with people correctly. Who is around you? Do you know how to be friends? Are you capable of sincere feelings or are only "the right" people around you? Put a plus if you have friends and have been in a relationship for many years; and a minus, if periodically your environment completely changes.
Step 7
Assess your role in the family. If your loved ones can rely on you in any situation, put a plus. If you often want to evade the burden of responsibility and shift it onto the shoulders of your partner, do not be shy, put a minus.
Step 8
Learn to evaluate yourself objectively, focusing on the highest moral standards and rules. The more precisely you define your pros and cons, the more pleasant it will be to bear the burden of the former and the easier it will be to deal with the latter.
